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writes:Me and my best friend started dating about a year and a half ago. Recently, she broke up with me because she told me that she isnt ready to have a relationship for the rest of her life. She wants more exprience with boys. I agreed because i want to see her happy but to be honest, it has torn me apart. I can barely sleep, and all i think about is her. She is 15 years old and she is the only person in this world i can connect with. the only person i can talk to if somethings bothering me. She has changed my life around. I honeslty dont know what to do. I feel so lonely without her and my heart feels so empty. I agreed but honestly i dont know why she needed more experiences with boys when i treat her like a princess. What should i do? Please give me suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha-1 thank you so much for the advice. So helpful, thank youu =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionStudentofLife, you have great advice bro, and all the rest of you, thank you so much for the advicee. i really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Time heals the broken heart. I have been through his myself. Keep yourself pre occupid with friends and family. Maybe start a hobby or exercize program. Try to stay away from her a while. I know thats hard but you can not make a person go back out with you or love you. So try and stop thinking about her all the time and stop toturing yourself. I think she is very young and needs some space. You are most likely more mature than her. She needs time to be a teenager. I'm not saying don't be her friend , just give her some space both of you need it. Try to go out with friends and have a good time. You are feeling at your worst right now but it will only get better from here on out. Your pain will heal little by little. Then one day you'll wake up and think jeez I was realy upset over this girl! Why? It may take a while but your heart will heal and you will learn from this and be a better and stronger person. You need to find someone who feels the same way you feel for them. One day you will. You may have many heart breaks in life we all do thats normal. I'ts just another bump in the road we call life. and one day your experiance will make when you get married that much better you will be a better lover because you have had experiance in love. Good luck and keep your chin up
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I understand you like no one ever could brother. My ex was 19, I'm 22.The difference is, that even though it hurt me lots to let her go, I wanted the same thing. And the crazy part about this, we both still have feelings for each other.Life is about experience, and through experience you learn. The only way you'll know if she's really the one for you is by connecting with other people.If you both go your separate ways for a while, maybe you'll realize that you were made for each other. If you both find someone else, well good then.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I'm sorry to hear that you're going through the pain of a break up. Sometimes life's timing stinks, doesn't it? At 15, she is still too young to commit to one man for the rest of her life, and I commend you for letting her go. She needs to experience the world and meet people as part of her maturing process. And so do you, I think.
Okay, this is going to be easier said than done, I'm afraid. If she is the only person you can talk to, then you need to make some more friends. Life is a balance of good friends, family, the love interest, work or school, playtime or hobbies. Your life to be honest sounds a bit lop-sided, if it all rests on the shoulders of a 15 year old girl. I'm not trying to be mean here, just suggesting that you need to expand your own world to get a fresh perspective on things. I love my husband dearly, but I have other things in my world too, friends, family, volunteer work, etc.
So you will be going through a mourning period for a little while, and will feel hurt and lonely. What you have to do is get up, go out, and see people! If you don't have things to do in the evenings, go find a good charity and volunteer! You're a young man with lots to offer the world, and there are people out there in desperate need of help. Take classes if you don't know how to meet people. There is so much out there in the world to discover, if you make the effort.
So pick one thing to do today to get you out there into the world, and do it. Then one thing again tomorrow. Little by little, you'll get over the initial sharp pain of the break up.
You may have friends you've been neglecting for her. Ring them up and reconnect with them.
It'll take a bit of time, but you'll get through this, and if you approach it right, you'll be a more well-rounded man by the time she might be ready to come back to you. But don't book the church just yet, okay? :)
Good luck and take care. Get out there!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey just a quick thought for the one who replied, what do you should think i should do until she a bit older, cuz i really feel shiity sincer we ended it. its hard to breathe if you can help me a little i'd really aprreciate it =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot for the info, i appreciate it =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): You are 18 to 21 and dating a 15 year old? Well all I can say is were you ready for a long term relationship when you were 15? I doubt it. She dose need some time to play the feild. This way she will mature and have experiance with dating. You said you were friends remain friends and give her some space. You could end up back together again after she has a taste for dating. In my opion that is for the best. Let her grow up a little more.
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