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writes:My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are constantly together and when we're not, we are thinking about eachother. I know he's married, but what we have together is unreal. I feel guilty but I'm in love. Just looking for some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): Yes you should feel guilty, you are with another woman's man, if he truly wanted you he would leave his wife. And you've known him for years shame on the both of you...His poor wife ,anyway he must be really in love with wife that he will not leave her for you, even with all the feelings you say you two share, I think he is taking you for a LONG RIDE!
And your blinded by everything....Good Luck in picking up your broken heart in the end of all this, you will need it. I am not to forgiving with homewreckers I consider them VOLTURES JUST SWOOPING DOWN ON MARRIED MEN!!!
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reader, flumpy  +, writes (23 November 2007):
He's married, its a no go area, at the end of the day - he's cheated on her with you, he's gonna cheat on you with someone else at some point, even if he leaves his wife for you.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 If he is married, then your relationship is not just "unreal" it is "not real".
When a man truely loves another, he will leave his wife.
When a man truely does not love his wife anymore, he will leave her.
You sound like a great mistress. Caring and devoted to him, never acknowledging the reality that you are his close sex-buddy.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, love-him +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hey, if he is separated from his wife, then i think it is ok? i dont realy see your question, im sorry, mail me if you would like to talk :) x
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Just wondering what kind of advice you're looking for, as it sounds like heaven from what you've written, or maybe that's how you see it? Thing is it's easy for us to project how we feel onto the person we love as in "we are thinking about each other", but how can you be sure he's thinking about you? You can only go on what he's telling you, and believe me blokes can say a lot to get what they want! The cold hard fact is he is married, he committed himself to another woman, he sleeps in 2 beds, your and hers, he's cheating on you and he's cheating on her. Not a very nice man. If he really loved you he would walk away from his marriage and commit to you, but why should he? He's got a wife at home who takes care of all his needs and runs his household and a lover on the side to add a bit of excitement to his mundane life. Someone always gets hurt badly in situations like this, and take it from me, it won't be the bloke having the affair. Most often it's not even the wife, as she may well fight for her marriage especially if kids and money are involved, but it will be YOU, the perceived homewrecker who will be left absolutely heartbroken because you gave him your everything believing he loved you as much as you loved him. Think about it, what are you really getting from him? His body when it suits him, at times convenient to him? What about if you wake in the night with a nightmare....he won't be there cuddling you, he'll be next to his wife! Christmas...where will he be? You end up in hospital maybe? You can't guarantee he'll be there when you need him most. If you really believe he loves you, then force his hand....make him choose, but be prepared to live with the consequences. Take care and good luck ;-)
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi there, my ex was married, he actually divorced her for me after a few years and we lived together for several years after that. e professed to love me, even Idolised me. but he never stopped having the affairs. I was the other woman, then I became the woman at home while he galavanted with others.
What Iam trying to ay is, even if you do manage to split up this family for your own selfish reasons, He would only do the same to you as he is doing his wife.
Dont buy the 'my wife doesnt understand me' or the 'we sleep in separate rooms' or the 'we never make love' or the 'your so special, but I dont want to hurt the wife' they are all lines, tried and tested and all rubbish.
This guy probably has a fantastic marrage, Regardless of what he tells you.
You will always be the bit on the side, How long do you plan on being used like that?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (22 November 2007):
There's nothing wrong with falling in love but it matters who you fall in love with. I figure that you used the excuse of being friends to start an affair. You both acted selfish not considering who might get hurt in the process.Have you ever thought where all this is going? You have dug a pit in which you have fallen and you'll have no choice but to cllmb out. Stop yourself from going further coz you are going to hurt more in future. Hurt now and live your life or live now and hurt worse later.
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