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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me after a year of dating. We had a great relationship until the end when things got tense. I started pressuring him to go to the next level and the tension just snow balled.He says he's convinced in his heart and soul that we, in the long run, will be happier separate than together. convinced.I want him back. Do I stay in his life as a friend hoping he'll one day see me again as his girlfriend or do I exit his life and re-enter a couple months from now to see if with time and fresh eyes things can change?I appreciate all advice but please don't tell me to move on. I know that's what I should be doing and will try but at the same time, want to also try to win him back.THANK YOU!
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reader, Stacii:)  +, writes (30 July 2009):
Dont take no for an answer if you really love him, tell him and just ask him back. If you leave his life for a few months he might realise that he can live without you. Leave it for a week or two after you've spoke to him, when he sees you about, look like your having a good time, show him what hes missing out on. Then keep trying! But after he says no a few times let it go you cant force someone to be with you no matter how much you love him x
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Pressuring someone into the next step of a relationship tends to scare people away. Your bf is obviously scared of commitment and if he is adamant that you’ll be happier apart then maybe in time that will be true. You can’t force someone to be with you and I know you don’t want to be told to move on, but in some cases it’s the best thing in the long run as you can get your life back on track and find happiness. However if you love this person and want them back tell them that the door is always open for them and there’s always a place in your heart from him. That you wish he would reconsider his decision to end the relationship and give it a second chance to prove that you’re right together. That you’d appreciate it if at some point you could meet up to discuss this and leave it for a while, stay away. If you stay at his side as a friend and make it completely obvious that you can’t live without him it’ll push him away even more and probably make him dislike you for not letting him try to move on in some sense. Good luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Your boyfriend has made his decision. I won't tell you to move on, but I will tell you that it sounds unlikely that he's going to want to get back into a relationship with you. So if you'd like to stay stuck on him, alright, but it does seem like you'll be wasting your time by not moving on!!
But, I understand... losing a guy you love is really hard and really sucky. And maybe in time, things will find a way of working out. I would definitely go with your plan B, leaving the scene and getting back involved in a few months so that he can see you and a potential relationship with fresh eyes. Give him time to miss you and have some time to think.
Maybe he will find happiness elsewhere, and I hope that you find happiness elsewhere too - you deserve it! If you want to work at moving on but also winning him back, this is my suggestion. In the next few months, really work on getting active and bettering yourself. Go to the gym, start new activities, buy yourself a new foxy dress or get a haircut. Make yourself feel amazing, however you need to do that... it will help you move on, but it will also help your ex see that you can be amazing and awesome without him and maybe it will make him think twice about his breaking up with you.
Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (29 July 2009):
 your bf has made up his mind to carry on his life without you.
everyone has free will and he's made his choice.
you need to accept this choice. its over.
its upto you if you want to continue holding on and being his friend hoping he'd get back with you, but what would u do if he meets someone else in the meantime?
you can state to him that you will always love him and be there for him, and then let him be. you can remain in contact.
if he does want u back he will make a move.
either way you have to carry on with your life.
good luck!
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