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writes:Dear Cupid my boyfriend broke up with me for a reason that is way unbelievable, his reason was I had a future and his life was a trash, because of this I humiliated him, but then I apologized; after this I heard from my friend that he was courting this girl who was his neighbor, I know that I should not have any feelings for him but its just so hard to forget your 1st love and I really wanted to have revenge I already asked tons of advice from my friends but the advices are not working please give me a good one.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (3 November 2007):
 There are some people out there who constantly compare themselves to other people; they can't deal with people being better (or different) than them. It sounds as if this immature person perhaps was feeling inadequate around you and didn't like that feeling. It is NOT about you...it is about HIM. You can not change him and you should not change yourself. And the best revenge is living well in spite of the pain and humiliation. You do not owe him an apology.
I'll share something that happened to me when I was much younger. I had a boyfriend who drank and couldn't hold down a job. He was a project but I was in love and wanted to work with him. One night he asked "what do you see in me anyway, you could do so much better?" I realized he was right and if he wasn't going to believe in himself, I was wasting my time.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 Hello.
They always say that revenge is a dish that is better served cold, and i have always believed that the person who made this statement must be very bitter and twisted, why at your age are you asking for this information, you are lucky that you were not any more involved with him or the pain would have been worse.
It is a very immature attitude that you have and maybe he knew this, so he decided to leave you for that reason, i am sorry that he has hurt you, i know that feeling to well, but if you want to be a mature person you will forget this revenge idea and choose the sensible choice and move on, enjoy your life you are still young, people who take revenge are silly some times it will back fire and you will look totally daft then, i am sure you dont want that to happen, surely you are better than this, for your own sake and peace of mind forget it, if you do continue then you will spoil your chances of getting another boyfriend, no one will take a risk of going out with some who will take revenge on them, then you will always be alone, for your own sake please move on, he did not deserve you in the first place.
Hope this will help you.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (3 November 2007):
 You will slowly get over him
try not to speak to him until you are completely over him
also try avoiding seeing him
if you seek reven ge then he will think that you still like him and it will look a bit sad and desperate
show him that you're not interested anymore and you don't care about him and his neighbour, it will hurt him more, he wants you to feel jealous!
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 hey,
sometimes sorry isn't enough to make someone feel better you have to prove it anyways ,maybe it is really hard to forget him but you have to do it anyways.
good luck byeXXX
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