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writes: I have been in love with my best mate's wife since I met her 12 years ago.3 years ago she started going out with him. He treated her like a queen at first, but now he's just nasty to her and ignores her. I'm so jealous. I couldn't believe it when she married him.She has two children, one is two and his, the other is 10 and a lot of trouble as he is handicapped. The older one is from her previous relationship.My friend makes things the worse for her as he blames her for everything.It makes me sick. But what can I do? He has money and a good job, I have no money and nothing to offer her.I am fairly sure she likes me, though. Twice we have kissed passionately, once when we were 15 and again at 20. Other than that I have never told her how I feel. I am too shy.I think they might split, and I also think she feels the same about me. We talk to each other and want the same things. All my friend wants is material things and he is foul tempered to her and the kids.I think she is beautiful and has been the girl of my dreams for so long now. Should I tell her the truth?
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reader, dan102938 +, writes (16 May 2005):
If I were you I would tell her that I loved her and try to help and comfort her as much as I could and just do as much as I could to make it known that I love her. And I also agree with Rainee totally. Good luck.....Just remember even if you don't have anything to offer her, you will still love her and that's a whole much more than she's getting right now, thats for sure. Good luck, also remember, comfort her and care for her as much as you can to show you love and care for her so she at least knows someone cares.
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (12 May 2005):
 Here's a question: Who matters more to you, your friend who treats the woman you love terribly, or her, your self-described girl of your dreams? I dare say it's her, and if you truly love her, why not tell her your feelings? True, you would be losing out on a friend, but why would you want to be friends with a foul-tempered man who values materials over people? You may not have much to offer in the way money, but most women would flat out rather be happy than miserable with money. I think she needs to get away from that situation, and she may be reluctant to do so as she might think there's nowhere else to go. Welcome her with open arms, as a lover or just as a friend, because she needs someone as caring as you in her life.
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reader, star3482 +, writes (9 May 2005):
thats a tricky one, you could just tell her because even if your friend has split up with her he wont be happy with you seeing her. but on the other hand you could just hope they split up and then be there for her when they do. some women put up with crap from their partners for years before they finally get rid, so you might be waiting a while. either way i wouldnt count on being friends with your mate for very long.
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