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*ovemylove
writes:Hey everyone, I've been really annoyed with my friends judgement lately! My best friend, let's call her Whinnie, really likes this guy I can't stand! He is in no way attractive, practically looks albino, has a pizza face, dorky hair cut, thinks he's totally bad ass, puts other people down, burps in her face, and is a total annoying pervert! She's just super desprate and keeps making excuses. She's always complaining about him and saying "oh my god I wish he would just ask me out cuz I knowww he likes me". They hook up almost every weekend and he tells her to not talk to any other guys or else he'll think she's cheating on him. Control freak? But he openly flirts with other girls in front of her!He keeps making up excuses for not going out with her too, like saying "oh my mom beat me when I was a kid and now I'm afraid of a relationship and getting hurt and I am afraid to trust women". Bullshit! He liked me just a month before and was asking other people to ask me if I would ever go out with him. Thank god ihave a bf! Anyways I always say "he's using you and he's an ass and u can't even trust him" and all she says is "it's not that easy! I understand him and he might ask me out!". She knows he's willing to do whatever he wants with another girl (but seriously he's so gross and annoying no one is interested) and puts up with it. I've tried to tell her every piece of advice and she won't take it! What do I do?
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reader, Neanthia +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Sister, I have been in that exact same situation. Except this guy was tan with dark hair, but just as creepy and gross. I think the best thing you can do at the moment would be to keep an eye on them. DO NOT let her go too far (my friend still regrets it and I think she always will). My friend was practically a zombie when I talked her out of it. Talk to her, kind of take her mind off of him, just try and lessen her dependency on him. I'm praying for your friend. It'll be hard but I'm sure you can help her, hearts change, sometimes quicker than you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): Seems to me like women have this thing for dating people that others do not approve of. It usually takes a couple mistakes to get things straightened out.
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reader, Chanelle.x  +, writes (21 January 2010):
There alway a boy like that that has to get your friends attention [typical] it happened to my mate all i could do is wait and say i told you so, cheer her up and in the future she'll know to take your advice :)
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reader, lovemylove +, writes (21 January 2010):
lovemylove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been by her side! He's 'left' her multiple times, i can tell very often he wants to end it so he can move on, but he still uses her every so often when he wants a boner. Each time he breaks her heart, she gets worse, more obsessive, and gives in more. She goes up to him and shows him her phone to show she never talks to guys, if he even gets a little upset, she'll do whatever he wants. It's like the more she gets hurt the less she learns...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
All you can really do is be by her side with a box of tissues for when she realizes she's made a big mistake and comes to you in tears. Sometimes people have to make mistakes to learn.
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