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writes:my best friend is in love with my BF and i dont know what to do i really love him and every time we go out one of my BFFs start to like him i dont know what to do, my heart is breaking and i dont want to lose anyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Well first off, it sounds like you're just afraid all of your friends are going to take him from you, not just that one girl. So maybe you're insecure about how he feels about you - in that case it's not a problem of your friend, so much as your relationship with him.
However, if your best friend does indeed love him, then there is only one thing you can do. Hope that he doesn't love her too. If he doesn't, you needn't worry because he's yours. If he does, then the best part is to take yourself out of the equation. No matter how much you love him, keeping them apart will only hurt one person: you. If he is indeed worth your time, he'll realize he only wants to be with you. Otherwise, you weren't meant for him, maybe you're bestfriend was.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 You do not have to lose anyone. If your best friend is truly a friend, if she is a good friend, she will not act on her feelings for your boyfriend. You do not have to lose anyone unless they are not worth your time and care. Are you certain she is "in love" with your boyfriend or is it a mere crush? If your boyfriend is aware, he cannot tempt her, if he does, you do not have to keep him around.
There is no real problem here for you, just avoid boasting about your boyfriend around your best friend and be the best friend you can be to her. That is all you can do.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 How do you know she is in love with your Boyfriend.... has she told you?
Perhaps you are a little insecure and think that everyone likes and wants him, and in fact it is you that is only feeling this.
Look at it this way, if they do like him, so what... who is he still with?? YOU!!
You must start believing in yourself otherwise you will eventually push him away with your insecurities because one it isn't very attractive from the outside looking in, and two, he will get tired of you thinking he is going to go off with someone else.
We are all at fault for putting guys on a pedestal, but they are no better than we are.... just remind yourself how lucky he is to have you as a girlfriend too.
Good luck!
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