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writes:Ok,So my Best Friend is a guy,we will call him "JT". He is a senior in high school,he has gotton straight A's since he was little. Has a 4.0. He comes from a family of six sisters and two brothers,a mom who constantly works,and a verbally abusive dad that got a divorce when "JT" was seven.All of his brothers and sisters all dropped out of high school or got their GED.They all struggle facially. *JT* has been saving money since he was eight years old,he bought his first car that costed $12,000. He is so different from his family,and so hard working. He Is going to college with me this fall. And even though he has so much going for him,he isnt happy.He always says he hates life,he smokes cigarettes(I do too tho),he always drinks on the weekends,and in the past couple months he has started stealing. He has stolen alcohol from stores,clothes from the mall,and cigarettes.He thinks he is too clever to get caught. I dont understand why he is putting everything he has worked so hard for at risk. He turns 18 in a month. Is it some pyscological problem,maybe he wants to be caught? He has strived for perfection his whole life(alot of that has to do with him wanting approval from his very mean father even though is doesnt admit wanting the approval). I just dont know what to do.I want to show him that life is Beautiful and that its not miserable.And how to appreciate the little things in life,not to take anything for granted,and to work hard and EARN what you have.I just would like to know the real reasons as to why he does these things?please help.He is my best friend and I love him dearlyxoooxoo
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 he definately needs a friend right now he is crying for help.he needs some care and attention i mean his dad obviously doesn't give it to him so he probably thinks that by stealing things he'll get caught and taken to the station and hopefully his dad will give a rats ass and come bail him out.you need to definitely talk to him about what's going on in his head because he's clearly needing some love and care i mean at such a young age his dad and mum divorced he's probably missing the fact he hasn't got family to turn too now.he's in need or love and affection but no-one will give it to him so he's acting like this to get someone to come to his attention and realise what's going on.you need to be as comforting and caring as you can for him.don't let him ruin his life he needs to live it and live it well.Hope this helps.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (15 April 2009):
ok. Well he needs you right now. Try spending some more time with him do stuff together that dont involve drinking or shopping. That will help heaps.Its a cry for help and you can help him. Big macho man type thing here. The guy wants help but cant just ask because that shows weakness. Go walking in the park swimming go get a movie or something like that. Stay out of pubs stay out of shops and the mall. and make sure you follow up this post. Been through things like this myself including the stealing.
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