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writes:Any advice men or women appreciated. I'm with a man who I have known for 7 years, recently we have become a couple and we have both decided that it's time that we settle down and have decided to make things work between us.His past relationships have not been so great,mine neither and he is really a good guy so I'm lucky to have him and I'm ready for everything like NOW! marriage, kids, living together all that stuff,while he's throwing out things like "one step at a time" "don't want to rush anything"He has expressed that he loves and is in love with me and I feel the same. I have stopped bringing our relationship up and have decided to let things unfold and in a way I guess it's good that he wants to take things slow but im not sure if it really is or not and maybe I am just being paranoid. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much ladies this helps alot and I will follow the advice =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): I think it's a good thing that he's being honest and careful. It seems like he just really doesn't want to make any mistakes this time around and like he doens't want to lose you either, and that's why he's taking it slow. If you rush him, then that may put him under too much stress and pressure and then you may end up losing him. He's knows what's best for him and for the relationship that you two are currently in, so i'd say trust his judgement. I know it doesn't seem fair that he gets to take things slow and your desire to move along doesn't get fulfilled, but as far as relationships go, it's a lot easier for a person to slow down a little bit then it is for someone to speed up a ton. You want him to be ready so that everything goes well. Maybe in time, if you feel that he is just moving waaaaay too slowly, you can come up with a middle ground, but it has to be somethingn that he's completely comfortable with, as he is obviously fragile at this time. Don't worry.. let it unfold as you say and instead of wishing you were further along, enjoy your time that you are able to spend with him right now.
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