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anonymous
writes:hey everyone,so i just need some advice i recently found out one of my closest friend who i knew since we were in kindergarden and now attend to the same college..is HIV positive =[ she was always my best friend and we shared everything and we were very close...but iam afraid to be close to her now since i know shes has that illness..i dont want to treat her different im still her best friend im just a lil scared i dont know what to say to her i know things wont be the same ...i dont want to start treating her differently bcuz i dont want her to feel bad i love her shes been my best friend forever and im really sad that something like this could happen to her..i just want some advice on how to deal with something like thisthanks !!
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 There has been quite a few articles and "how to help" sites on this.
For instance
How Can I Best Help and Support My Friend Living with HIV/AIDS? http://www.capegateway.gov.za/eng/pubs/public_info/F/87102/11
Women & HIV/AIDS Woman smilingLiving with HIV/AIDS http://www.womenshealth.gov/hiv/livingwith/
Personal stories of women living with HIV http://www.avert.org/womstory.htm
Helping Friends or Relatives With HIV/AIDS http://www.thebody.com/index/whatis/helping.html
sharing means caring http://sharingmeanscaring.blogspot.com/2008/07/do-you-have-friends-living-with-hiv.html
With the "cocktail" medication these days, someone with HIV+ can live a normal life for years, as the medication helps boost the immune system.
So the most important thing is to treat her just like you did before, as a human being, with lots of respect and lots of love.
If you are concerned that you may be infected if you are near her, google for how HIV is contracted and you will find many answers (DOs and DONTs).
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (16 April 2009):
 hun all you can really do is just treat her how you would normally that's all you can be a friend support her and be there for her.your right not to treat her any different she'll feel really upset and down about that you need to just comfort her when she needs it most and be there to listen when she's down.that's all you can really dogo out and have fun when she's got things on her mind so she can take her mind off it all.just make sure she knows you're going to be there to support her 100% of the way knowing that she's got a great friend behind her will make her feel alot better in herself.you just need to be there to listen and comfort her.Hope this helps.
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