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writes:hi there I like this boy, i mean i really like him and we are good friends but my best friend was actually going out with him and i felt guilty about liking him . . but my best friend knew that i liked him and she said she was ok about it but i knew she wasnt. Now they have broken up and im always thinking about this guy and i really want to be his girlfriend but i dont know what to do. please give advice :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Your best friend, could be your best friend for years, life even, do you want to throw that away for the sake of a boy? She may even she is fine with you going out with him, presuming that he wants to go out with you of course, but you know deep down that she won't be.
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 CaringGuy said it all! But yeh, i understand that you really like this guy but he's not going to be the only guy you'll ever like. If you got with him and lost your friend because of it, and then you and him eventually break up, you'll have lost both of them, and will regret having ever gotten together with him.
People are rarely happy about their friends dating their exes, even if they say they're okay with it, they're not really okay if it actually happens. Keep your distance from this guy and try and move on, there'll be other guys.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 October 2010):
I don't think it's a good idea. Whilst they have ended it, you would probably lose her for the sake of this guy. Friends are rarely okay with their best friends going out with ex's. It just leads to heartache. If I were you, I'd stay friends with this girl and not go out with the other guy. There will be other guys, but not so many decent friends. If you decide that you will go out with him, at least give it some time.
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reader, geqo  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Talk to your friend about it first. It would not be worth losing your best friend over a guy. Be sure that your friend understands that, if she says it's ok to go ahead, that you might date the guy for a long time, and she can't change her mind then. But I'd definitely recommend checking with her first.
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