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writes:ok. i am fourteen and my best friend is twentyseven. i meet her because i babysit her two year old daughter. she is like my sister.ive known her for two years. she just found out she is pregnant.she also just found out she has lung cancer.i am so worried about her.my mother lost her bestfriend at age fifteen from Lucemia,and i just lost my grandfather from lung cancer on 12/31/10. i cant lose my bestfriend from it too. my mother and i were talking and she worries about me getting so close to her.she said to me i dont want you to go threw what i had to with my best friend. it is so hard. this woman is so strong,so was my grandfather. can she take chemo while she is pregnant. she is super sick.she only weigh 114 pounds and i weigh more then her.we tell each other (everything). she has had such a hard life,and now this! she wants to get an abortion.i personaly dont belive in them but i dont want to lose her quicker. i am so confused and worried. will she be ok?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 hi
what a terrible story :( my best friend has cancer too, treatment seems to be going well but with cancer you just never know, it is a disease that fights the sufferer as hard as they are fighting the cancer.
a pregnancy will complicate matters in terms of your friend getting the BEST treatment for her cancer so i agree with her; if she wants to get an abortion, just be there for her and try to keep your feelings about it to yourself.
also, don't give up on her, despite what your mum says, your friend needs you now more than ever. i know your mum doesn't want you to get hurt but if you distance yourself from your friend now and then she doesn't survive, you will feel really guilty and that might stay with you for the rest of your life, so just do your best for her, help her with practical things like child minding, grocery shopping, bits of housework etc, the day to day things that still need to be taken care of even when someone is really ill.
best wishes
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 January 2011):
 No-one can tell you if she will be ok I'm afraid, cancer is an awful illness, some people can survive but others dont make it. Keep in mind that lung cancer has one of the lowest survival rates of all cancers because it is a nasty one to get - but it depends how early they diagnosed it and what stage she is at.
Have a read of this website http://www.cancerhelp.org.uk/type/lung-cancer/
There is a lot of information on there which should help you.
As for the baby - I think the right thing would be to have an abortion as she is going to be very poorly and chances are she may not make it (sorry to say this but we need to be realistic) so it would not be right to leave a newborn baby alone in the world. I think she obviously needs to start treatment asap and doctors can delay treatment because of pregnancy, so having the abortion would be the right thing to do. But if she has not fully made up her mind, she should talk to her doctor because they will be able to advise her better than we can whether to keep it or not.
All you can do is be strong for her and be a good friend to her. Stay positive and keep hoping for the best - hopefully it will be an early stage of the cancer and they have caught it early in which case she might be ok.
You sound like a great friend to her and she is lucky to have someone like you supporting her.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, JaZminny +, writes (28 January 2011):
 I aint a doctor or anything and I haven't lost someone bcuz of cancer or anything but I have lost my great grandmother that I was super close too its really hard but the biggest advantage I woulD say your friend has is that she is young I woulD suggest u pray if u are religious and that u support her with any deciSion she makes shower her with love this will be of great help if u havE faith she will soon be back to her normal life
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 Absolutely nothing in this world is certain. There is hope that she could make it through this, there is even hope that the baby could survive as well but unfortunately the opposite is true as well. You can hope for the best.
Chemotherapy will always have its risks and usually with pregnant patients, chemotherapy is only administered after the first three months of pregnancy, after the baby has developed a little more. It really depends on the stage of the baby and the stage of the cancer, even then, it is full of risks. That is not to say that it will not work, there are quite a few women who have been treated while they were pregnant, they are fine and their babies are fine. We can only hope.
I hope that helps.
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