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writes:I am in love with my best friend , also my neighbour , and I don't know what to do , if I should tell him , or leave it alone. Here's my story.Let's call him , Cody. Cody is my best friend. Not just best guy friend...he's my number one best friend. I literally tell him everything. We've been friends ever since I moved in right next to him. We started playing outside together in the front yard, then working our way to the park by ourselves and now going to parties together.We have the same friends as well. If I am ever upset, he will sneak out his bedroom window , hop the fence and sneak into my room so we can talk. Even if I am crying, he will just hug me and not say a word. I tell him secrets I would never tell my best girl friends. The best part is he listens to me , and cares for me. We share lockers at school , and have tried getting all the same classes together. We even have dinner at each others places most of the time.One year he came on a cruise with me and my family. That's how close we are. My family LOVES him. He's always looking for a way to make me laugh. He's the sweetest guy ever. If both of us don't have a valentine on valentines day we go out together for fun. Whether its to the movies or dinner. He has even pretended to be my boyfriend once when I was trying to make a guy jealous. Haha , he's always there for me as I am and will always be there for him. I know he knows I love him , but what he doesn't know is that I am in love with him. I don't know if I should tell him, but i HATE being in the friend zone. I love his hugs , and I love that when we both have nothing to do he'll come to my house and we'll watch movies and each time we take turns choosing the movie , and he'll sit through my sappy movies , and i'll sit through his gun-action ones. We have lots in common. I swear we're meant to be. He is so cute too. He has blonde hair blue eyes , works out. Very athletic.So , anyways.. I need help , should I tell him? Please , advice would be awesome !
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (5 April 2011):
Im so happy for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): I'm so jealous of you - that sounds amaazing! I wish I had a friend like that, sounds like a romance movie or something 3 Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): So there you go congratulations. Most of our friends in this discussion group had said what I wanted to say so congrats again and wish you a long happy relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice ! He texted me this morning to come outside, and I asked why because it was raining! He said just come. He wanted to do twirls in the rain.. such a weird kid. I probably didnt look like I was having a lot of fun though because all these answers were bottling in my mind. Like when is the right time to tell him , if I even should. I was trying to picture what he'd do. This I swear , what happens come right out of a movie :D it was like a perfect moment between me and him so I'll explain full detail :) ! When I stopped twirling I guess I didn't realize I was staring at him, long enough for him to stop twirling and ask what was wrong. I told him it was nothing , but he walked closer to me anyways and hugged me. I started to cry and then he said seriously what's wrong? I didn't say anything but I said everything going straight for it with a kiss .. risky I KNOW! but it was just the moment and kind of cool cause the rain .I started to realize he wasn't pulling back which was good. When he did , I was so scared to hear him talk. Afraid of what he might say so I looked at the ground. long story short, we're boyfriend and girlfriend now . YAY !! Thanks for all the help you guys ! :)
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reader, honestman  +, writes (4 April 2011):
I had my very best female friend in high school. Our relationship was the same as the one you have with this guy. She was very attractive.I never told her that I loved her. I think she also had some feelings for me, but she never told me. The thing is that, as time went on, we lost contact. I know that things would have not worked with us for long, but at least I would have tried. Don't loose your only chance. Remember, you live only once, and life is too short. If you don't do this now, you'll probably regret it once you are old.If he does all those things with you, it is almost 99% sure that he is in love with you. But he might be afraid of ruining your relationship [which I was really afraid of].Tell him your feelings, and tell him that if he does not feel the same, that you'll understand, and that you still want a friendship with him.You have nothing to lose!
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reader, mamasaidknockyouout  +, writes (4 April 2011):
I've felt this way with all of my guy best friends since 7th grade except one-he was gay lol.In my experience-7th grade: hooked up with him for awhile-never talked again8th grade: I told him and it pushed him away and we never talk anymore10th grade: had a relationship with him that was mainly sexual (we were more attracted to each other) we connected great both sexually and mentally, but we were both such sex freaks that we hooked up with more than each other so we ended up being fwb after a year, for another year.11th grade: just dated a guy for 6th months and now I'm single and pregnant.I'm now at the end of my senior year.My advice, don't ruin a good friendship because I really miss the guys from 10th and 8th grade, they were really great guys, but the feeling I had for them ruined everything and I talk to none of the above anymore.
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (4 April 2011):
In my opinion you should tell him! Since you spend a lot of time together, you will have no trouble finding a good moment to tell him what you feel... As a matter of fact, tell him soon enough before you lose your chance (like before he finds someone else) but don't rush it either. You definitely know him well enough and you are certain of your feelings. I don't know him but I am certain he likes you more than just as friends as well. Basically, this sounds easy as pie, your situation is just excellent and positions you very well. You love him and your families like each other so... Good luck! And tell us the outcome :D
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reader, BeautyOfLife +, writes (4 April 2011):
If a guy will do all that with you, I garuntee he has some if not alot of the same feelings for you. You can just make suttle hints or say it outright. But make sure you tell him that even if he doesnt feel the same way, you still want to be friends with him. You might need a while if he doesnt, but eventually you will get over him and move on. And then you could be friends with him. But I highly doubt he doesnt have the same feelings for you, as you do for him.Best of luck!
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