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writes:I have a pretty good relationship with my (relatively new) boyfriend, but the other night we had a little hiccup. This hiccup in itself is definitely nothing we won't get over but it led me to think further about the issue and my reaction to it.Basically a group of us went out and he started talking to his friend about some hot girl he knew and how they used to watch porn together. I was instantly bothered by this. Not because I feel any jealousy over the situation - I don't feel something like that is remotely threatening to our relationship.But I felt it was disrespectful to speak about that in front of me, and that boy talk should remain just that!I guess I'm just wondering how others feel about that scenario, how you might have reacted and whether you feel like such things are acceptable in your own relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your answers, they're all very helpful.
I hadn't thought about it from the confidentiality angle, but that is something I will be keeping in mind.
We'd both been drinking when this occurred, so at the time I second guessed myself a little - is the alcohol making me react to something that shouldn't bother me?
But all the responses here have helped cement and pinpoint just why it bothered me. Thank you!
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reader, somebodyoutthere  +, writes (7 August 2009):
Yep, he doesn't care about your feeling if he openly talks about a past hot girlfriend. It makes me wonder if he is at all 'hinting' that he wants to watch porn with you, but I doubt it. He's being disrespectful to you.
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (7 August 2009):
 He doesn't sound like he gives two flying frogs about your feelings. I'd be really upset if my guy talked about things like that in front of me. He either A) has no manners or B) is really careless and doesn't censor himself as he should.
I'd also like to bring to your attention the fact that he's bragging publicly about something him and another girl did, so I wouldn't expect the intimate stories of you and him to remain between well, just you and him. That would freak me out. I prefer a guy who feels like he doesn't have to brag and knows that things like that should just stay between the two people who experience it.
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