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writes:So recently my 5yr old sons personality has changed dramatically from being a happy child to being miserable....i know that since my daughter turned 1 thats when his attitude changed..i try to divide my time equally between the 2 of them but its hard my youngest is still a baby so she needs more time but when i or his father try 2 spend time with him he is angry and wants nothing 2 do with us he alienates himself...im at my witts end i dont know what 2 do i miss my smiling happy son!i unfortunatley cannot afford 2 take him 2 a therapist so any advice would be a big help
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (18 April 2011):
Its prob just a phase then is there any problems in you home life and family ie someone sick, rows etc if so that could the reason as some kids do completely change when there is the smallest problem in their home life. Hope this helps
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reader, ashkk2 +, writes (17 April 2011):
ashkk2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes ive made sure 2 have my son be a part of everything with the baby since the pregnancy,i wanted him 2 feel special and no he has no sitters or school im a stay @ home mom so he is with me & the baby but he will be starting school in aug. i have always wanted 2 make sure my children knew they were loved so im really big on giving them affection telling them i love them....thats so very important 2 me...im hoping that when he starts school things will change
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (17 April 2011):
involve him with the baby for example when changing her nappy ask him to fetch the nappy, cream etc. same at bath time and all other activities with her. keep praising him and encouraging him. as well as splitting your time equally between them try do activities involving the two children at same time. try telling him that his sister loves him and that he is her big brother and she needs him to look after her. hope this helps! but it just sounds like jealousy as she is gettin bigger and moving round so you would be watchin her alot more than when she was smaller. most children get naughty, quiet because of jealousy over a new sibling at some stage
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Has he started school recently? Is he left with someone, ie a babysitter? Is his general health good? There is obviously something bothering him if he has suddenly changed. Jealousy toward a new arrival would have been evident before now i would have thought. The change in his behaviour might not be because of his sibling. Give him his own time, not just time when you can spare it. Find time in the day to make a routine where he knows he has yours or his fathers undivided attention. Take him for a walk or go for a soda. Just the two of you. Make him feel he is important and deserves a treat for being a good lad. Tell him you have noticed he doesnt seem very happy sometimes and ask him whats up. Let him talk and listen to him, dont interrupt him. Im sure he will talk to you and give you some clue as to whats wrong if you give him the space, time and attention he needs.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 April 2011):
How much do you involved him in helping with your baby? Sometimes older siblings get on better if they help out with looking after the children, so maybe try involving him with looking after your daughter more as well as trying to spend time with him.
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