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writes: Hi everyone, thank you to whoever takes the time to read this. I'm a sophomore in high school, and I've been in a relationship for about six months now. My parents don't know about the relationship, (they're really strict, and Asian) but they know that we're friends and they generally like him. However, he lives about half an hour away and I only see him once or twice a week at church, or when my youth group hangs out (bowling, someone's house, etc.)We still talk every day, and I really appreciate the time that I do get to spend with him, (I've heard a lot about ldr where the couple barely ever see each other) but recently I've been feeling really jealous and envious when I see couples at my school. I really wish I could see him more, and have the more physical aspect of the relationship, (we've been dating for half a year, but we haven't done as much physically as I would've liked) but that's almost impossible considering my parents would not approve or give me the chance to see him at all, if they knew. On top of that, there are obviously rumours circling around that we are dating, and I feel that it's only a matter of time before the news gets back to my mom, and I'm really not sure what will happen then.I've considered telling my mom at least, that he has a crush on me, (or vice versa?) but I really can't bring myself to do it.Sorry for the wall of text, but that's my dillema. Any help would be reaally appreciated. Thanks guys!
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reader, Eva.c  +, writes (17 April 2011):
Say mum dad I need to talk to you You see I am dating someone I was thinking about inviting him/her and parents for diner You will love him/her If they get mad/sad sayIt's ok mum dad I love him/her
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reader, SIRJAY  +, writes (16 April 2011):
True love can't be hidden, your mum will definitely know and when she does, you might not like the outcome of it. So it is more advisable to sit her down and explain your feelings to her. It has happened to me and my girlfriend did the same it then changed from secret lovers to real lovers. Best of luck
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (16 April 2011):
Well, I believe that keeping it a secret and having your mother find out from someone else will make her suspicious of your relationship. Anyhow, I know you like this guy, and that's all good and well, but how long can you take it only seeing him once or twice a week while, as you stated, all those other couples are together everyday? Sometimes in life, we like someone and feel that it could be good but there are circumstances that are not in balance. In those situations we have to make tough choices that are not easy and can hurt. With that said, I do think you should tell your mother about your relationship because she will be more hurt by finding this out from anyone other than her daughter. Do you see? I've made this mistake in my life and it caused a rift between me and my parents for a few years (there were other circumstances); only recently have we really worked on repairs for our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Im 17 my boyfriend lives in another country, I see him twice a year both of us are super committed to making our relation work. I decided after high school i'll move to where he lives to be with him. My parents like yours very strict, I do not plan on telling them they will they will just say im young and forbid me from talking to him. If they find out deny it, That seems bad but if they are so strict imagine what they would say. I also get jealous when i see couples at school dont worry about it. Be happy you get to see him,maybe you could plan a day for you both to do something secretive to sneak off and enjoy a day together.Its very exciting and when your older you can laugh about it, have fun your young ;)
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