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My 27 year old schoolmate is dating a 79 year old billionaire. Isn't this a sign of complete materialism? Or am I an idealistic idiot?

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Question - (7 February 2012) 11 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I saw a question posted here the other day that got me thinking about a schoolmate of mine who is a lovely looking lass of 27, an aspiring actress, dating a 79-year-old billionaire.

ok im not a complete moron i know that money makes the world go round. but please, isnt this a sign of complete materialism? what can a lass possibly have in common with a man 50 plus years her senior?

am i an idealistic idiot? maybe so maybe so

tell me and ill shut up

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012):

I guess it's really their business ultimately. I doubt they're having sex due to the age difference, but there are plenty of other parts to a relationship that you can still enjoy with someone that much older or younger than you.

Is she using him financially etc. Hard to say, but I would guess it is more for her career maybe and no more than he is using her for thrills or eye candy if that is all there is to their relationship.

I have been going out with someone 30 years or so older and I don't feel any attraction that way, and to be honest I would be repulsed at the thought of sex with him period. I'm older than your friend but I look a lot younger than my age and people often glare at me when we go out, it's upsetting. We have a friendship but I suspect there is an element of him liking to be with someone younger and beautiful. I don't let him pay for everything for me, I limit what we do and I pay for things too since we are just friends. I just turned down an expensive event he wanted to pay for, if he were my bf I would let him pay though.

To be honest I'm lonely after a very difficult break up and I just want someone nice to hang around with who has some similar interests who won't pressure me and make demands. He is giving me financial advice and things like that too. It's so nice to find gentleman, who wants to spend money on you and take you out and not expect anything for it. A lot of men are so cheap and rude these days.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012):

She gets to be spoiled and he gets to fool around with a sexy 27 year old. They both win.

OP he didn't get to be a billionaire by being an idiot. He knows what she wants but as long as she provides him what he wants then what's the problem?

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (8 February 2012):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntReminds me of a quote by Lorelei Lee (so charmingly played by Marilyn Monroe) in 'Gentlemen prefer Blondes':

"Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?"

Is your friend a gold-digger? Probably. But it's her choice. And given the wonders of modern medicine and its efficacy in prolonging the life of aging billionaires, I suspect she may find it's not quite what she had bargained for.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (8 February 2012):

Anonymous 123 agony auntIt could be materialism. It could also have blossomed into love, with the money acting as the catalyst, of course. Who cares! Its her life, why be judgmental?

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A female reader, PerhapsNot United States +, writes (7 February 2012):

PerhapsNot agony auntYep, she has gold digger written all over herself. In the end, everyone is entitled to waste their time how they see it fit and she has chosen her path.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012):

I think your absolutely right. It could possibly be love, but more often than not, she's doing it for money, career, etc..

The world isn't perfect, and it seems to be a growing trend that older men can date young beautiful 'model' looking women.

Men "buying" women in some form or another is sick. But unfortunately...women value that kind of security..

I've lost all faith in women, because of stories like this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012):

I would say it was a career move on her part, but if he is happy with whatever their relationship is for, I am sure it suits them both. If hes clever enough to be a billionaire then he's not daft or deluded.Whatever floats your boat and makes you happy.

Good luck to them both. Don't worry about them,focus on yourself

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (7 February 2012):

Honeypie agony auntEh, it's their lives not yours. Try not to judge. What makes you happy may not make the girl next to you happy and so on.

Personally, I do see it being any of my beeswax, however, in my head I would think she is a "gold-digger" to the hilt. Since she isn't family or a close friend, who cares?

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (7 February 2012):

chigirl agony auntI think you shouldn't judge others and leave others to live their own lives. What's it to you anyways? If you picture yourself to have to be materialistic in order to date a man 50 years your senior, then thats on you. There is no universal rule that says anyone who is dating a man 50 years her senior must be materialistic.

But I am sure, the money makes him more attractive to her. But that only leads me to the fact that what is attractive differs from person to person. So don't judge.

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A female reader, whatarewegonnado_withthemboys United States +, writes (7 February 2012):

whatarewegonnado_withthemboys agony aunthii...

if this was in person, i would soo totally high-five you right now. buuut, since it's not...i guess it's just gonna have to be a virtual high-five. soo, here ya go...*high-five*

i definitely don't think that there's any real connection between your friend and this old geezer that she's dating. mystiquek put it pretty awesomely in her answer. kudos to you, mystiquek. ")

aaand as far as money making the world go 'round...i beg to differ. money gets the world into trouble. just look at the debt crisis in america right now. buuut, maybe that's just me... ")

good luck, and God bless,

~sarsar~

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A female reader, mystiquek United States +, writes (7 February 2012):

mystiquek agony auntI like to think I'm open minded and love conquers all regardless of age, color, size, ect...but in this case me thinks the only thing the two of them have in common is money...he has it, she wants it.

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