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writes:my 13 year old son has a girlfriend the same aged as him. They always hold hands, Kiss all the time, And slap/squeeze/grab each other on the bum. Should i allow this? I think its fine because they aint going far.
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reader, Rain Flower  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 I think it's a good idea because, if you don't show kids what they will have to deal with in the real world, when they turn 18 and move out they'll be clueless with how to respond to the real world, hope this helped
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (27 February 2011):
13 is make out territory, but it won't get beyond fingering until 14 or 15. Logically, Sex becomes an issue around 14 or 15 as well. Regardless of what over-bearers like you or the law says most kids lose their virginity between 15-17. Accept it, deal with it, because your never going to change it.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (27 February 2011):
90% of 13 year olds out there are aching for a relationship but don't have the self confidence to make anything happen. Middle school is an awkward and terrifying portion of everyone's life. Along with puberty, comes bad cases of ABS (Awkward Body Size: when boys go through a huge growth spurt or women start developing and it leaves their bodies disproportionate until the rest of them catches up) not to mention acne, and changes in the voice.In short, I think its great your son has overcome this stereotypically nightmarish stage of his life and has had the confidence to start a relationship. Now as a parent you should be on the look out for anything more than just making out, but I think for now they are fine. If you're really uncomfortable with it, initiate an "open door policy" where they cannot be in a room together if the door is shut. But overall, I'd say to let them experience the relationship without too much interference. There are things that he'll need to learn about relationships that he can only figure out on his own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): If they are that open with their affection in public, it's only a matter of time before they experiment sexually...if they haven't already.I would have the sex AND STD talk with you son as soon as possible.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 You just answered your own question..you think it's fine, as long as they keep it at that and nothing more.
Perhaps, it's time for you or his father to have the birds and the bees talk. Also, throw in the legal age of consent is 16 talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I know how I was back then. You don't see it, but if he's not hittin it yet, he will be SOONI you're just closing your eyes.
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