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writes:I am committed with my boyfriend since 4 months. We both love each other very much and also have trust on each other. But we are of different caste and we know surely that our parents will not allow us to tie a knot, anyway. Now, in this month only i am moving to his city for 1year for my studies. I have to stay in a hostel. But he wants me to stay at his place with him for this 1year because his parents stay in other city. What should i do now? Knowing that, our relation will not have any future, how can i live with him like his wife. I am unable to decide anything. Should i accept his proposal or not. Plz help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): similar thing with I was also diffrent caste with my b/f but it proved to be cheating later, usually in our country boys tell there parents problem but real intension is cheating, you might feel very much trust but danger don't fall in such prey me and one of my freind fell in same pit and still we both suffering by this cheating. remember if the b/f is truthfull ask him to convince his parents first meet their parents, if they agree than you can but not without their permission.
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reader, missy_musk  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 You cant help who you fall in love with. If you truly love him and he truly loves you then you should be together! your parents want you to be happy as im sure his parents want him to be happy. and if the only way you will both be happy is together then my dear together you must be! however on the other hand you need to think about the possability of things not working out. if they were not to work out then what would happen to you? love is a beautiful thing and you should grab it with both hands but you should also have something to fall back on if it were to ever go bad and end! xx
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (5 June 2011):
it is up to you if you choose to stay with him, how is your friendship together? aer you happy together? do you both love each other? do you like the same things? how old is he? you must think about these things, people in India have married people from another caste many times. the caste system is changing in India and if your boyfriend/friend and you get on well and feel love for each other, that is more important than what caste you came from.best of luck!
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reader, ClearSorted +, writes (4 June 2011):
Decide for yourself that arent you getting into a rut? Firstly you shall lie to your parents, he is hiding things from his. What when any of your parents find out? What if his intentions are bad? This relationship doesnot have a future as you said. Will u b able to study in such a situation? Dont deceive your Parents. Their trust is more important and will be your support for life. Take Care. You can contact me.
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