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writes:I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still makes me laugh but most of the things that he does really get on my nerves, it's funny at first but then I just get sick of it, the best way that I can put it is, I love him I'm just not in love with him, should I break up with him or should I give him a chance? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 October 2017):
 I agree, the expiration date of your relationship has shown up.
You two are still young and maturing but at different paces. You are outgrowing him.
You can love someone and NOT be with them because they are NOT (or no longer) a good match for you.
End it nicely with him and DO NOT pull the "we can still be friends" because it's an "anchor to the past" NEITHER of your needs. In order to move on, you BOTH let go.
These things happen. He is who he is, and you no longer feel the same way about him.
Chin up.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 October 2017):
 Break up with him.
You've outgrown the relationship. You're not married to him, and you don't have children with him. You're only dating and that's the whole point of dating. To see if you're compatible before you make any big commitments.
You've had some good times and good memories. You're allowed to move on.
Just don't try to remain friends. Cut once so both of you can heal sooner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2017): When you aren't in-love with the guy you call your boyfriend, you must breakup with him. Let him find someone else, that he doesn't irritate. He's too immature for you.
Some people only hold-on to their boyfriends or girlfriends; because they're too jealous or possessive to stand the thought of someone else making them happy.
If you no longer love them; or if they "get on your nerves." You should let them go. If you can't; it isn't love holding you back. It's selfishness. You just can't stand the thought of them being with someone else other than you. They will figure this out; because they will get tired of being mistreated or seeing you angry at them. The frustration will make you abusive.
You aren't old enough to expect your relationships to last too long. Being so young, you should be dating different guys.
You have to learn something about a variety of male-types and personalities; which will refine your ability to choose the best match for you.
You've outgrown your boyfriend; so it may be time to say "good-bye!" You can still love him as a person. If you're not "in-love;" then why is he still your boyfriend?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 October 2017):
 But you have been giving him a chance, for a whole year. You have been dating since almost one year... and it's almost one year that you feel things have changed and you aren't as happy with him as at the very beginning.
That means, I guess, that you made a wrong judgement call and got with him thinking that you were compatible or that he was " the one " or something like that, but pretty soon it turned out he is not.
No big deal. I mean, it's normal at your age- maybe at any age as for that. That's what dating is for. To find our in time if your first attraction, your first positive impression, can stand the test of time, or not.
In your case, it turns out " or not ". His sense of humour and / or other positive qualities are not enough to make you feel in love, nor that you have a future to share.
I think it would be kinder to him , and to yourself, if you break up. Both will be free to look for someone you can have a better, more fulfilling relationship with.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (21 October 2017):
 You are young. At your age it is unusual for a relationship to last. A year is quite a long time for one at this stage of your life when you are still finding out what you want in a partner.
Your relationship sounds like it has run its course. In your shoes, if I was not "in love" with him, I would split up sooner rather than later, before you end up disliking him. Give yourself and him chance to find someone more suitable for you both.
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