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writes:How do you get over a broken heart? whats the easiest and quickest way? i was with my boyfriend for two years and i am finding it really difficult to just forget about him. I finished him, i didn't want to but he drove me to it and he couldn't care less that I ended it. Please help....any advice would be appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all the advice, i guess its just hit me so hard because it was my first long term relationship and he was the first guy i ever really loved. I think my main problem is that im fighting with myself, one minute i want him back and the next i want to move on and forget everything. But i believe in fate and if its meant to be then its meant to be, we may meet again in a couple of months or years and make it work or I could find someone else and fall madly in love all over again. Either way i guess iv just got to face that it is well and truly over for now at least and just try and live my life really, which is easier said than done :/
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reader, pipsqueky +, writes (2 April 2011):
I am so sorry to hear about your relationship breakup. It is always very hard and it doesn't get easier as you get older. My only comfort to you is that it's happened to me so many times during my life and and takes me about 2 years to feel completely happy again. When I look back now at the men I cried so much over, I laugh at myself - they were such jerks! I'm a great believer in 'it obviously wasn't meant to be'. Believe me there is someone better waiting for you. Each new relationship is a new experience and helps make you a stronger person because of it whether the relationship was good or bad. By the way, it doesn't make the break up any easier even when the guy is a selfish, rotten, bad tempered git - you loved him for what he was. But you have to keep believing that you WILL get over him and meet someone who deserves you. Good Luck.
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reader, SoaperGirl  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 Just recently I went through this after Valentine's Day on 21st of Feb...it was hard and difficult, but today, I now feel totally out of love with him, and I can let him go. Keep busy, when you start to obsess over him, mentally scream STOP to yourself, maybe even snap a rubber band on your wrist, and immediately force your attention on something else...walls, lighting fixtures, other people, anything.Be good to yourself, fight the depression, put on songs and movies that make you happy for at least help bring the cycle of the obsession. I read a lot on the internet and started a blog to write my feelings in.Be resourceful, be active, keep occupied. The pain passes before you know, One day you realize you are over the fool and ready to move ahead.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 April 2011):
 I wish there was a quick way, we all do, but if there is a quick way, I haven't found it.
This became one of my most hated of all sayings, but here it is - "Time heals all wounds". I heard this soooo many times after my two year relationship broke down. It doesn't get easier hearing it, but the saying is true. I never thought I would get over my first girlfriend. I loved her with all my heart and would have done anything for her. This made it harder to accept that she left me. But it DOES get easier! I admit that it took me a long time, probably longer than it should have done, but I got there and so will you.
All I can advise is stay as active as you possibly can. My social life was pretty much non-existent when my relationship broke down and I think the lack of friends in my life made it so much harder, so go out there and spend time with them. If you don't have many, go out and make some more! Also, if you're still in touch with your ex, I suggest you cut contact until you reach a point where you are over him at least. For now you must put all the focus on YOU and cutting off from him will help, hard as it might be.
I'm happy to help further if I can, so please keep us updated and I'll be happy to try and answer any further question you have. Good luck, you're going to be alright!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 April 2011):
 There is no easy way. You need to give it time and grieve it like you would someone who died. Let yourself feel those emotions, lean on friends for support, talk it out with people you trust, but realize you won't be better overnight. Don't bottle it up either, or you'll never really get over him.
Cut all contact and stick strong to that. Let nature do the rest. It will get better, just give it time.
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