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*ndy00
writes:Hi everyone.Tomorrow I am going to a university for an interview. This university is located about 50 miles from where I first met my long distance (240 miles) first love at a train station in her home town 3 years ago this summer. She broke up with me back in June.Since we lasted 2 years, I met many of her friends, but since it was a long distance relationship, when it ended, I never got the chance to say goodbye to any of them. But tomorrow, one of my ex's friends and I have agreed to meet up while I am in the area, and it will be the first time I have seen her in about 10 months. From there I will get the chance to give her a proper goodbye; tell her face to face that I really appreciated the friendship we gained from a relationship that didn't work, and how she even tried to help me in the aftermath of the break up.I'm not sure what I could really do to say goodbye properly, other than use words. (giving her a gift would surely be a bit over the top) but I want to hit home the fact that I really enjoyed the time we shared. After all, after tomorrow I may never see her again.Any advice you can give would be great. Thank-you
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Good news. I always knew you were a survivor, Buddy. Stay in control.
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reader, Cosy +, writes (11 March 2008):
Congratulations! I thought I had left a comment before but can't see it now so maybe it didn't work. Im glad it went well for you, and goo luck on uni stuff, I'm doing it now too and its tricky! It's nice to clear the air isn't it? xX
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (11 March 2008):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question It went well, thanks.
After my interview (which went pretty well I think), my dad drove me to where we arranged to meet, and she was already there waiting. After chatting for a little bit, my dad decided we should maybe all go for a drink. I takes 3 hours and 9 minutes to get home, so I was surprised he was willing to spend as long as we did with my ex's friend. We had a couple of drinks together, talking about university and my ex, and we must have been in the pub for about an hour and a half. After that, we dropped her to her accommodation. Throughout the night I let her know that I was thrilled that I had the chance to say goodbye face to face, and she seemed to find it quite sweet. It was really nice seeing her again, and I hope we will meet again some day.
As a result of the day, what with talking to her, and hearing my dad's opinions regarding my ex, I decided to give her a text to find out how she was doing (since last time she seemed very sad). She sounded okay in her reply, so I feel good having made contact with her and experienced no emotional effect from it. What with everything else that went on today, it sort of drowned out the part that usually upsets me. But we'll see how it goes. I just think it would be good to help her out if she is miserable just for old times sake. I just don't want to suffer any further "ex-factor" from that!
So, I've been back to a part of the country I haven't been for 10 months, and I have survived!
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reader, Cosy +, writes (11 March 2008):
I don;t think you need a gift, just tell her how thankful you are and she will understand. If its from the heart it will be obvious to her... good luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 March 2008):
Let us know what happened when you get back OK?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (11 March 2008):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I'm leaving very soon. Thanks anyway.
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