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writes:I'm 25 years old. Because of a medical condition, my doctor told me it'll be hard for me to have children in the future. This news has shattered my dreams of experiencing childbirth and being a mother, and I feel bad for my boyfriend because it seems as though I've robbed him the chance of having his own children if I continue being with him. I know he loves children and would love to have a big family in the future. I don't want to be held responsible for creating possibly one of the greatest regrets in his life if we were to remain together, and I know he will resent me for this later even though he said he doesn't mind and that we could always adopt in the future. With that said though, we are currently going through some really major ups and downs, on a break, but will likely break up for good.Still, I'm not sure how to deal with any future relationships. I don't want to rob any man of that chance of having his own children. I don't want to rob any parents their chance of having grand children. How should I deal with this situation in the future? How early in a new relationship should I bring up the fact that I may not be able to have children? I feel defective at the moment. And I feel as though I don't deserve to be with anyone because of this defect.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 October 2009):
Of course you deserve to be with someone! Don't think you don't. Read all the points below :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): plenty of guys will still want you, dont worry bout that.
If you raly want one then adopt.
Every year thousands of children are abandoned or have parents pass away. They all wish for one thing: a Mum and a dad. They will love you for taking them in and you will have all the disadvantages of being a parent (kidding)
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reader, bitch  +, writes (16 October 2009):
There are lots of people who do not want children or who would be very happy adopting a child instead of having their own. You are NOT defective. I understand. I cannot have children. I am dating a guy that likes me for me and doesn't care if I can have children or not. I adopted a little girl who is now three and let me also say that one child is enough for me! LOL
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (16 October 2009):
 Hun its not your fault at all...step one, you need to stop blaming yourself and being so hard on yourself! I would make sure you tell whoever you start to get serious with when up front, then its their choice! Some people dont want kids and there is always adoption! Good luck!
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