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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Good for you! Keep on wearing your makeup!! It's one of the best parts of being a woman.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93  +, writes (14 July 2011):
AgonyAuntiee93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMe and my boyfriend are over now! We are friends, but I am with a boy who loves me for who I am and what I do! Im glad that its all over and we can both be happy now. Thanks for any answers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): This is a very strong example of a man showing his true colors. Unless you want to be insulted and beaten down in every sense of the word... as a woman... get rid of him. Trust me, this guy has issues. If he is going this far with you ... and you are only bf/gf there are big issues waiting for you down the pike. You don't need someone tearing you down and calling it love.
If it doesn't 'feel' like love, it usually isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): He is clearly bad news and you are doing the right thing in moving beyond him. I find it odd that he became your boyfriend to start if your public face offended him so; was it a new development, your makeup routine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Hope you give him a surprise, dump him before monday....and know he is jealous and a control freak you will find a real man one day, he is a complete looser and he is the ugly one.
spunky monkey
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
I can see how wearing too much makeup will make you look ugly, maybe slagish...but I don't see how it makes you fat.
Why wait till Monday? Dump his ass now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Why are you even considering staying? Sheesh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Jesus Christ this guy is an absolute asshole. Run away and get as far away from him as possible. Seriously why are you even considering giving in to the demands of an abuser? A guy who is not only threatening you but calls you ugly and fat slag.
Don't stick around waiting for his surprize, pack up your stuff and leave now.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (5 December 2010):
AgonyAuntiee93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone for giving me advice. i havent made a choice yet but he is already begining to move out. for those who want info on what he actually said; he said that he didnt want me to wear makeup because i will turn into a ugly, fat slag.
i have have to choose by monday, or he said i will get a disturbing surprise?
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (4 December 2010):
I see where he is coming from; I too prefer my women with less make-up since I think their natural face is more beautiful than a fake one. HOWEVER, he is way out of line in giving you an ultimatum. That is controlling and self-centered on his part.
He would have been much better off just talking to you about it rather than sending threats.
Tell him that he can't control your decisions and if he has a problem with that then go through with the break up. See if he's actually dim-witted enough to do it. If he does, you know he was never worth it anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Well with a boyfriend like that you're going to lose your confidence no matter what. Tell him you're not going to do it, you like makeup, you don't wear much of it and if he's willing to dump you because of that then you're better off without him.
He won't do it, he's just making threats so you'll do things his way. If you let him do this now then any time he wants something he will threaten break up to get you to do things for him.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 maybe he's trying to make you realize that you are dependant on your makeup. he may not actually want to break up with you at all, only to make you realize you are beautiful without a mask, slight or not. see if he will make a deal with you. if you can make it a week without any makeup he will stop buggin you and you will see how it feels. i actually went through something similar (not quite to the extreme you are) but me and my best friend were very dependant on our makeup, we both had bad acne and used it to cover it up. a mutual male friend of ours challenged us to go one week without makeup. so we did, and no one even noticed!! we realized we were just as beautiful without the makeup as with. we also realized that our skin cleared up without our makeup clogging our pores. to this day neither ofus wears foundation, and we only wear makeup on special occasions, and we are both beautiful and loved. i challenge you to do the same thing. just see where it leads you.
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reader, Battista +, writes (4 December 2010):
A loving boyfriend would not put you in such a position to begin with. What a ridiculous ultimatum to give you.
It strikes me that he might be looking for a way to get out of the relationship without having the guts to do it properly. I don't think someone who forces you into decisions like this is good boyfriend material at all and is far too controlling.
I think you should keep wearing your make-up as that is what you like doing, and it is entirely up to you to decide about these things. It's his choice what happens next. However, if you end up losing someone who wants to control you wearing make up then I don't think you are losing out. YOu will be sad, of course, but you will be better off without someone like this.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): How histrionically immature of him; did he give you any reason as to why he finds it so distasteful? Or did he just lay it out straight... no makeup or break-up?? This is an odd situation; perhaps more detail will help make sense of it...
-T.V.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): You should tell him that you are not going to change yourself for him or anyone for that matter.
If he doesn't like you wearing a bit of make up then he's frankly, pathetic.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 December 2010):
That has got to be the stupidest reason I have heard someone dump another over.
You're boyfriend sounds extremely controlling. Next he'g going to tell you what you can and can't wear. He is NOT your father, he cannot tell you what you can and cannot do. Go on and wear your makeup sweetie, it's your god given right as a woman. If he breaks up with you over it then that's on him, not you.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (4 December 2010):
this guy is very controlling and this is just the start soon it'll be oh you cant wear that then oh you're seeing those friends again this will get worse. I say you get rid of him and find someone wholikes you just as you are
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