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writes:Hi Aunts and Uncles.I have a major problem about the boy I've been crushing on for 5 years. For the past week and a half, I have been having frequent dreams about said guy. They're normally about us dancing, kissing, or holding each other. I can't sleep because of said dreams, but I kind of like having them. I wake up in the morning and keep telling myself that these things will never happen. Ever. I dont think he has ever (or ever will) like me, because we have known each other for so long and I havent made even the slightest 'move.' Could you please help? What do I do?
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reader, roadie42  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Perhaps you should consider making a move and telling him how you feel. You've kept your emotions inside for quite a long time - it's no surprise that they're building up and filling your subconscious!
Maybe he doesn't have feelings for you, or maybe he's been spending these past five years wondering how on earth he's going to express his attraction to you. Either way, you'll never know until you ask. It's a little scary and a little risky, but it's an incredibly brave thing to do, and if he's a mature guy, he'll respect you for it (and he'll probably be flattered as well!).
Think of how happy you'll be if he likes you back. And if he doesn't...yes, it'll hurt, but it will also provide you with the closure you'll need. Sometimes, just convincing yourself that he doesn't like you isn't enough. That may sound rough, but believe me, it's worth it. Once you get that closure, you'll find it so much easier to move on, and you'll be closer to finding someone out there who loves you just as much as you love them :)
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