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writes:I was with my boyfriend for seven years and we broke up several months ago. He decided to relocate back to his hometown. He met a girl soon after his arrival there and they are now living together. I was hurt by his departure and hurt by the fact that he moved on so quickly but figured that there was not much I could do about it and have been trying to move on. I have wanted to keep my dignity and have phoned him only twice about a couple of routine things. Here is my question.Out of the blue he called in the early morning hours and said he was sorry for messing up my life. He had been drinking a bit I think. Would this call just be a reflection of the fact that he had been drinking or might it be that he still cares?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Aunt Audrey and Star News for the feedback. It is helpful to get the insight of other people when you are feeling a little confused. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 I would imagine he still cares about you, you were together a long time and it seems you split amicably.
I wouldn't read too much into his call though, sounds like a guilt trip to me. He probably feels bad for the relationship ending and felt he needed to tell you.
You're doing the right thing by accepting the end of the relationship and moving on. Good for you!
Best of luck.x
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reader, StarNews +, writes (26 March 2006):
 There is a good chance he cares and still loves you, since you had invested many years together. I think he jumped into another relationship to get over the pain of missing you, though he was in denial about his feelings for you and chose not to face it at the time. He found it easier to move on to someone else, but is beginning to realize how much he loves and misses you. It is now hitting him hard, he is reflecting back on moments spent with you, and got up the nerve to call you on a drunken night to express his feelings.
That does not necessarily mean that he wants to get back together. I feel that men take break ups much harder when they truly love someone, and they would rather move on, than to take the risk of further heartache, if the relationship failed once again.
It sounds like you have been able to remain good friends with him after the break up. If you are able to keep the friendship going, you may have a better appreciation for each other, and there could be a chance that someday you will be back together. Its all about timing. Lots of luck to you!
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