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*iccanwish
writes:Hi, I really fancy this guy , I mean I really do ... but my best friend fancies him too, I want to ask him out but I don't wanna ruin mine and her relationship. Please help!!!Thanks, Love becka.
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reader, wiccanwish +, writes (6 July 2008):
wiccanwish is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much all of you, it's a big help, I don't like the guy so much now and can concentrate on my friendships !!! XXXXX becka
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reader, Teenage-Rebel +, writes (28 May 2008):
 I was in this situation last year and my friend asked him out and i felt hurt by it even though he said no.
You should probaly talk to your friend and have a long chat about it.
Remember NO boy is worth you losing your friends.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (28 May 2008):
 I don't understand what's the big deal about the age thing... So what, it's young? You can have young relationships. Most children are having relationships much younger now. As long as it doesn't lead to sex, what's the big deal, right? Just have fun.
Okay, if your friend knows you like him then she should be able to understand that you like him and want to ask him out. Who's to say she won't ask him out if you don't? She really has no right to get mad at you if you go out with him as they are not dating. If she does get mad at you and wishes to destroy your friendship over it, then she isn't worth it as she doesn't understand how unreasonable she's being.
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 What u need to do is imagine ureself steping out of ure body and watching the situation as if it were a soap or a movie. For 10-12 year olds to sit and have a mature chat about this guy and come to some sort of mutual agreement. ure still not addressing ure own personal emotion for this guy. yes i agree u shouldnt let guys come between friends but it still doesnt solve the fact that u really fancie him and wud maybe wud like to "go out with him". One thing ive learnt about life is that if u act really really nice in this situation and do the right thing. wud ure friend do the same for u. she cant be expected to because she doesnt think like you. what u need to do is just say. we both fancie him. only one of us are going to get his attention. so whoever it is we cant really help it or it isnt anything personal it jus up to him. maybe niether of u are of intrest to him. jus talk to him if ure confident enough, dont worry about it. jus go with the flow its all part of growing up. friends fallout all the time but u make up again no matter what coz ure mates. millions of youngsters in the uk are in ure same position now. if u dont fall out over this then u will fall out over something else and make up again so its win win or loose loose situation!!!!!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Hi becka
You are a little young to be thinking this way sweetheart, But my advise to you is the girls code when you come across this kind of situation hunny then think the girlfriend code..Your friendship comes first and as you grow you will understand this alot more...Its not worth the pain and heartache as boys will come and go sweetheart your friendships in life are important and the trust in a friendship is very important...Think about this hunny for the futour and also think how young you are and its a little to soon to be dating anyone hunny, Try and wait untill your a little older and you understand life a little better YOU TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Ok... Well first I shall ignore your age and answer the question disregarding this information.
Well your relationship with your friends should be more important than a boy and I think you see that. Try talking to your friend about it. If she would feel uncomfortable with you asking him out, and you feel the same about her asking him out, then make an agreement that neither of you will... At least until one of you finds someone else to like or one of you stops liking him.
Now where your age is concerned... You are very young to start dating and I think that it would be very silly destroying your friendships for boys at an age where you should be having fun with your friends.
Good Luck.
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