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writes:I have been married to my husband for three years now during the course of our relationship he has cheated on me several times, some I can prove and some I just have a strong feeling about. Example after being married for three months I found out that he was having another baby with his little boy’s mother. I was devastated. Another thing is we live in a hurricane area and after Katina there was Rita We were dating at the time but we lived together and I decided to evacuate. Years later at a family event at our home I found out that a girl that was there he had peformed oral sex on her during that hurricane that I evacuated for.I’m so disgusted by the things he has done in the past it makes it almost impossible to trust him.I met a guy on the set of this music video that I was a lead model for he was very nice and at first I didn’t think anything of it other than wow what a nice guy but then he cast me again for another project and we kinda hit it off. He asked me out to dinner after we were done with the project. I felt guilty and canceled out on him at the last moment and told him I was married and I was going through some things at the time. He seemed spooked and said he would call me in a few months for another project he was working on. Months passed and I kinda just brushed the whole thing off until he sent me a text that one text lead to more and so after many hours of great conversation. We developed feelings for one another. He wanted me to leave my husband and move with him several states away the thought spooked me so I backed away from him but I would still think about him. Recently he caught me off guard with his new number and we have been talking again. He is moving to the east coast and wants me to come with him.Don’t get me wrong I love my husband still but I just can’t get over his past cheatin ways. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): i dont think your husband is making you happy.. if he loved you, he would not have cheated on you fullstop.. to find out he went down on a girl that was not u is the worst thing ever! move on with your life.. and be happy for YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009):
Hmm the real question is why you even with your husband? Hey get a divorce and be happy wether its as a single woman or with the other guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess you guys are right hooking up with someone else won't make things any better. If anything worse for istance when I first began talking with the other guy its like my problems with h/b got worse I was so into the other guy that I was turned off by h/b. But I'm also beginning to think something is wrong with me. Not physically because I don't lack confidence in that department by emotionally I think it may be a good idea for me to seek counceling because why have I put up with all my h/b crap. As far as the other guy I'm going to just change my cell number and cut off comunication with him. If I do decide to split up with my h/b ill still know how to get in touch with him. I think you guys are right I would need time to just be single.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 If your husband is not making you happy and has cheated on you many of times, then i think it is time to move on. Maybe you should be on your own for awhile, this new man is probably great fun at the moment but can you see yourself getting serious with him? You should be happy, enjoy life to the max, if you loved your husband then you would not have cheated, and if he loved you he would not of cheated, maybe its best for you both to seperate and move onto relationships that make you very happy and not want to cheat! Good luck!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Well, you say you love your husband? You say he has cheated on you multiple times? I suggest that if you don't want to try Marriage Counseling, and feel that you want to be with the other man, please leave your husband and DONT CHEAT before you leave him. Revenge cheating serves no purpose because it cant truly relieve the pain(you'll still think about it) plus it would make you no better than him.
But yes, if you have given all you can with the marriage, then Id say it's time to hang it up.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (19 May 2009):
 hun if you can't trust him which clearly you can't then leave him.do what you feel is best for you!!!i mean can you see yourself EVER trusting him again after all these lies and things you've found out?you've put up with it this long so if you want to go with this guy then go!but only do it if you want too! don't do it just becausedo it because you want to be happy and forget the husband as he clearly doesn't respect you if he is cheating here there and everywhere.it's unfair on you to put up with all of this.So do whatever you feel is better for you do whatever you feel is right and feel will make you happy.Hope this helps :) best of luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 May 2009):
Well if your husband has cheated then leave him. But do it for you, don't do it so you can go off with some other guy.
Leave and set yourself up somewhere as a single girl. Move to a place where you can follow your career better.
Then once you are single give this guy a call and see what happens.
Don't just use the poor guy as a safety net to run to when your husband finally goes too far.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, mrs.smith81608 +, writes (19 May 2009):
I will give you my honest opinion. Rip out his tongue and then leave him! I'm sorry it's brutal, but you deserve more than this man is giving you or has gave you. Take your chance at a new and happy life! ;)
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