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reader, natmarie  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 I think you should give it a go with a guy to find out and put your mind at rest, and no you don;t have to 'ceom out' to your wife unles it gets to a critcal point. EG: you are going to leave her for a guy. I mean, why tell her now and hurt her? that's nuts. Good luck xxx
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 I would venture to guess... that you've had these 'urges' for quite a while and now they are just becoming far more pervasive than you're comfortable with.
Basically, two things can happen. You can experiment and find out whether you're truly bi/gay... and then deal with the consequences (perhaps divorcing your wife if necessary... cause you'll HAVE to 'come out' to her... OR... you can bury it away and suffer through it as a recurring nightmare that will nag you over and over throughout your life.
Which can you truly deal with? Causing them pain if/when they find out about you (which they will most likely get over)... or burying it and suffering through it the rest of your life? This is one of those things that just doesn't go away.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Hello. If one day you realise that you are Gay I think then you should come out of the closet and tell your wife because its no fun living a lie. There are many gay people who are married nowardays who are coming out of the closet while having a commited relationship. The social stigma and prejudeces keep many bisexuals and gays buried in the closet. Its not your folt and you don't need to feel guilty about the way you feel. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Hello. If one day you realise that you are Gay I think then you should tell your wife. There are many gay people who are married nowardays who are coming out of the closet while having a commited relationship. The social stigma and prejudeces keep many bisexuals and gays buried in the closet. Its not your folt and you don't need to feel guilty about the way you feel. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are all right.
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reader, xxxcz me +, writes (12 August 2010):
 okay, so you want to experiment. but imagine how your wife would feel. it's still cheating you cant justify it with it being a same sex affair so stop it NOW
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reader, kevin3007 +, writes (12 August 2010):
 why you're doing this do you have any idea how much it will hurt your wife and how about your kids have you thought about them you're their idol their hero do you want them to be like you do you want to disappoint them
sir have a life i beleive that emptiness is doing this to you so instead of thinking to be with a man do something usefull like taking a good care of you family...good luck
ps:when you married your wife i think you promissed to be faithfull to her forever and in front of people.
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (12 August 2010):
 I’ve never thought of sexuality as a static thing, so don’t think you should berate yourself for having feelings. However, out of respect for your wife, I strongly advise you not to pursue this particular urge (I'd be saying the same thing if it were another woman).
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