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writes:HiI have been dating for some months now, mainly seeing each other weekends.Things are going well, but today when it came to sex I completely lost my erection. Neither of us have discussed it, but we both know it happened. Was quite embarrassing having her grind away trying to get me hard again.On the one hand I had orgasmed 3 times this weekend, Friday night from mutual oral, from sex on saturday morning , and from lazy mutual masturbation sat night. It was Sunday morning I had this happen.This has happened once before, 15 years ago, I'm 36 in fairly good health though I could eat more healthily. And I've always assumed I could perform, this has got my mind in turmoil thoughI am worried it will happen again and effect our relationship. Everything else is fine, and we cuddle/kiss the whole time we are together and I always make her orgasm with tongue and fingers before sex since she takes a long time to orgasm anyway (it seems to take longer each time for her) but this seems like it could be a big problem.Is there any steps I can take to avoid this that anyone knows? diet etc?.I do appreciate 90% of this is in the mind of course, and assume that having had sex this weekend, there is nothing medically wrong with me? or is this a sign of ED???...not sure if it's best to discuss it with her or just see if it happens again. She didn't make any deal of it at all, we just cuddled afterwards. Not even sure if for a guy my age it would be normal for there to be less drive after several orgasms in a weekend or not. Never been an issue before.Thanks
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reader, ptw72a +, writes (25 November 2008):
ptw72a is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to let those who replied know, saw her last night and no problems . Did speak about what happened, and she seemed amazed i was worried about it as 'we had had a heavy weekend already'
Thanks to those who took the time to reply.
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reader, ptw72a +, writes (24 November 2008):
ptw72a is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply, yeah i know worrying about it can make it a problem even when none exists. I wasnt even feeling 'horny' that morning, i just knew she was and i was gonna just do something for her, since its something i love doing. She got very horny, shoved me onto my back and thats when i lost it.My GF would never make an issue of it anyway..i guess its because this hasnt happened for 15 years it has hit me.With my previous partner there was less cuddling / kissing / foreplay and more sex (with just an hour or two 'recharge') so ive always just assumed it will be ...hard. I hadnt orgasmed for a good 7 hours so it seemed quite freaky to me.Anyway to answer your question, no im not on meds right now, i am a little short of sleep (burning candles both ends), not really overweight (12st 12 and 5ft 11) ..though i have stopped weight training a few months ago.I havent talked to her about it really because i dont want to turn it into an 'issue' i think to her its nothing at all to be honest, its me that was shocked at it.Cheers
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reader, metalsman +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Hi there,
I wouldn't dwell on this too much if i were you, from what i understand you've little to worry about, except your own worries! and this could promote further the problem (in your own mind). As a guy of 48 years old i have encountered this myself from time to time, despite having had a healthy and frequent sex life with my wife.
With you having said that your frequency of orgasms that weekend was several then i would be not at all surprised to find it happened, after all with age comes slight reductions in sensitivity and the "recovery" period takes a little longer. Just don't worry for heavens sake...
Your girl sounds like a treasure and it suggests she's fully comfortable with the odd times this happens.
A couple of questions though for you to consider;-
a) Are you on any medication at the moment - this can give rise to "rising" problems.
b) Are you perhaps a bit stressed out with work or other issues as this also can be the common dinominator for the same conclusion.
A change to a more healthy diet ceratinly wouldn't do any harm, i found lately that having lost a bit of weight my capabilities have improved quite substantially, so perhaps you might consider this too.
Anyway, best of luck and don't make it an issue cos' i'm sure you've nothing to worry about.
Regards
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