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writes:When i was in year 8 I had a teacher for english. although i hated her then she grew on me. although she isnt my teachwer anymore i still see ehr everyday in school. she is always nice to me and she makes my stomach flip and my heart beat faster when i see her. i've never felt this way about anyone and don't know what to do.i dream about her and she is all i think of. i try to spend all my time in the english block so i can see her. i knew i was bisexual before but she has really brought it out in me. i have told my friends and they all say that it is fine to have a crush on her, but i don't think this is a crush, im deeply in love and wish she felt the same, however she is 16 years older than me. (im 14, she's 29). we always have a laugh together and im going to add her on facebook when i leave school in two years. i get depressed when i don't see her and when i do i can't take my eyes off her. what can i do? and do you think she deserves to know?
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reader, xXDewGreenXx  +, writes (8 December 2012):
Currently I have a crush on my math teacher. She's no Dita Von Teese but I just get lost in her eyes when I look into them. I try not to look at her in such a way because it's inappropriate and unacceptable by law. It can get a teacher in loads of trouble so I will never try to go further, because her getting fired is the last thing I want.My plan(well if I don't chicken out) at the last day of my senior year before I leave the class I'm going to give her a hug "good bye" and tell her I've had a huge crush on her since my junior year and just walk away. I feel it will help get a lot off my chest, and It's not like things will get awkward because sadly I might not ever see her again, but fortunately I'll soon get over it. Though I know I'm not close enough to her to be in love, I have a huge crush on her and that's normal, some people just like older women/men. Honestly Im typing this right now to help tell myself what I'm going through. Really, my mind says infatuation, but my heart says love, I have to realize that both my heart and my mind will learn in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): i know how you feel.The only advise i can give you is to not tell her how you feel because it would turn out very awkward between you both. you should let her know once you leave school , then you couldn't jeprodise the future you may have with her. she could feel the same way? maybe you should just try to move on until you leave school and then try with her.i have fallen for my p.e teacher she is female too , i hated her to start with but to be honest she has grown on me , i want to tell her , because i feel i have a chance with her but i know i don't , but the good thing is i know she isn't straight because ive met a girl she is with very often and is always in her Facebook profile picture. i hope this helped , inbox me if you need to talk about anything :) x
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reader, shiori +, writes (18 March 2011):
i know i feel the same way about mine. i am in love with my teacher. i think you shoould slowly make her fall in love with you. maybe give some hints. but don't come on too strong and if you care about her tell her you love her after school. this is how you know you love her. if you care for her about her job and you are sexually attracted to her then yes. you might have fallen in love but are not realizing it mentally aged. i have already realized that and i am 15. i know i have. it was hard but i got through it because i know i have a chance even though it's slim to 1 but just try to understand to not take it too far with her. see how she feels first. or she will slip from your grasps.
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reader, cinthol +, writes (27 August 2009):
You know what? I've been in exactly the same situation not once but three times. I know the feeling so well and believe me, nothing compares. I once felt the same way about one of my high school teachers (she and I are both female) and it was such intense love that I had never felt for any guy before. Every chance I got, I would try and see her and say hi. I would try to be smart and funny in front of her or impress her in some way. I tried the hardest in her class and stayed in touch with her even after high school. I'm in college now, and I don't know whether its because I haven't seen her in a long time or because I have these intense feelings about a new person now, but my infatuation has faded a bit. I'm pretty sure your love won't last forever. My advice would be to not tell her. Telling her isn't really going to achieve anything. Just keep it for yourself because it would certainly save you both unnecessary embarrassment and discomfort.Hope that helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm never going to tell her, atleast not while im in schoolxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow she's going to be out of school for 4 weeks and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): DO NOT TELL HER (until at least you have left the school), it could be embarrassing for both of you, and plus she might be straight, then it will be 100% worse.
It's good you can trust your friends with that kinda thing, I can't, I've had to swear on my life I don't have a crush on my teacher today! Ha. But I'm not going to do anything about it, I'm not going to tell him, because we're getting along fine and we're friendly with each other at the moment, plus I'm 14, he's in his late 20s, so more than a 10 year age difference!
Just keep it all in, and get interested in people your own age, I'm trying to :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): Hi I'm a 15 year-old guy and seeing as this is a girl-girl thing I not sure how much use to you I can be. What I would say is that if you have liked a lot of girls in this way then as the post above said it may not be love. But if this is the first time you have ever felt this good when around someone then I may be love for that teacher. If you really think it's love the first work out if she is straight or gay and if she is already in a relationship. These are pretty important things to think about before asking her about her feelings towards you. The only problem with this idea is that if you come out and say that you really like her then there is probably very little chance of her saying it back even if she was gay and single because it's illegal for her to date you while your still in school. If you really want to go out with her then take things slowly. This may take some time but I think that's probably the only chance you have at telling her about you're feelings and her not making her walk away. I think that the same thing is happening to one of my friends in my school but she hasn't told the teacher yet.
This could be utter jibberish and useless but it may help
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reader, mia1525  +, writes (22 January 2009):
Honestly, I don't think you're in love with her.
I know you'll probably hear this from alot of people, but speaking as someone who is going through this right now - it's more of a strong admiration/idolisation. I kind of realise that now. I did question my sexuality at one point, but after reading many posts on hear about female student/female teacher, I realise that it's not love, it's more infatuation. And I'm straight.
I'm sure she's a great person but with the way your relationship is (teacher/student) nothing can ever happen.
Also, we're teenagers at the moment. As everyone seems to say, our hormones are raging.
But either way, good luck. I know how it feels.
Message me if you want to talk about it.
Mia
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