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writes:My friend with benefits always used to arrange to see me, now it seems the other way around if I didn't put the effort in I could go a month without seeing him. When I do ask him to meet me he normally would. The time he did choose I was busy then the next I was at college (these times span over a couple of weeks) which I'd told him I would be anyway and by the time I'd finished and got back to him (that time he also knew) he couldn't meet me anymore. He enjoys it when he does see me, I just don't get why he seems to be losing interest, I certainly don't give him the impression I want anything more and neither does he, we have discussed this. Is there anyway I can change this? I did post yesterday but didn't really get an answer as such so have rewritten this so it makes a little more sense x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 November 2009):
I hate to tell you this, but it may be that he's seeing other friends as well. You're not his girlfriend, so he's not tied to you. If you're looking for more, then you need to end it with him and find a boyfriend.
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reader, kaicora +, writes (14 November 2009):
You have to remind yourself that this is a "friend's with benefits" relationship. Therefore you cannot have any expectations. Consider that you may have allowed yourself to become too attached/involved.
I see no reason why you can't try to initiate a meet-up again, but if it still doesn't work out, maybe let him contact you the next time. Regardless of how that plays out, it sounds like you need to find yourself another such friend to keep you occupied in the down-time.
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