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writes:My wife and I have been together for 4 years but in the last 3 have only had sex maybe 6 times. Just resently I found a sex toy after she went away for a weekend for work. I know she has been using the lotion she got for us also when I was working nights. I really dont know if I should be conserned shes cheating on me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
 That’s not a lot of sex… and she has a toy now? Have you talked to her about it? What’s going on with you two.. is everything else alright?
You need to TALK TO HER… and ask her what’s going on and if everything is alright..
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 March 2012):
 If she was cheating on you then she wouldn't be using the toy, unless of course you think that masturbation is cheating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): Sounds to me like the opposite is true OP. You do know that sex toys and lotion go hand-in-hand right? Pardon the pun.
OP sex toys just make masturbation quicker, cleaner and more efficient. She either doesn't want to or doesn't have time to lie there, warm herself up and then proceed to make herself climax. The toy makes that easier. OP if she was cheating then why would she need the toy? She'd just have another man's penis /tongue/fingers do the job for her instead.
This is not even slight evidence that she is cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): honestly i had a similar situation where i was working alot to pay the bills and started to be a little suspicious... found out she did cheat but only actually spent 5 days in total with the guy because he lived out of state. trust your gut and check for evidence but dont make wild accusations.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 March 2012):
 Responder "AuntyEm" is correct. And I'll add that masturbation is not cheating, It's quite normal. But you need to figure out why a married couple are having sexual relations twice a year? That ain't normal!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (8 March 2012):
 No you should not be concerned at all about the sex toy. Have you asked her why you arn't having sex?...it might give you some clue to just ask her straight out rather than making illogical judgements.
Ask her...
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