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writes:This may come off as an odd question, but.. how can you tell the difference between actually liking/loving someone, verses just thinking that you like/love them?Also, there is a guy that I am sort of dating, but we aren't "official" (my choice to not be official right now). He's a really sweet guy and super nice and caring, and he's cute too. It's like he would be my dream guy. But for some reason I'm still really hesitant with him and sometimes have a funny feeling about it. Why might this be happening? Reply to this Question
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reader, jimrich +, writes (13 September 2010):
re: how can you tell the difference between actually liking/loving someone, verses just thinking that you like/love them?
.... There isn't much difference at the beginning BUT
You can arm your self with some relationship knowledge from which to judge yours and the others behavior, beliefs, desires, etc. When you understand the subtle details of a good relationship, you are more likely to make a good relationship with just about anyone and be much clearer about your feelings and intentions towards a partner.
google: relationship tips and get started learning things.
re: But for some reason I'm still really hesitant with him and sometimes have a funny feeling about it. Why might this be happening?
... Because you are uninformed and lack basic relationship knowledge. The other possibility is that you do not have adequate self confidence... google that also.
good luck
:) Jim
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 It's the SAME THING!
You either like/love someone or you don't, there is no middle ground with relationships. If you like him and you WANT to be with him, then take a leap of faith and stop fearing what MIGHT happen, if he feels the same way about you, chances are that things will turn out fine if not great.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (13 September 2010):
If you think you like or love someone, then you do. That's what love is. Your experience of love will change as you mature, but there is not some objective test for love that exists independent of your own mind.
As for why women hesitate to go all-in with the super-nice dream guy, I have no clue, but rest assured you are not alone. You ever fall for the jerk who excites you but also makes you cry? That will probably happen. I'm not judging, I'm just saying.
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