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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have always firmly believed that if a guy likes you he will let you know. My crush (whom I met about five years ago, we have friends in common but never hung out) and I have slept together twice both times we never bothered to exchange numbers. I never bothered to give him my number because I didn't want it to be one of those situations where I'm waiting on him to call and he never asked for my number, which meant to me he definitely was not interested. Later his roommate told me he was interested in me but he didn't think I was interested in him. Then I saw him out one evening and he asked for my number, I'm thinking this was his way of showing he really was interested and wanted to pursue something. But two weeks went by and I never heard from him. So of course one drunken night, I sent him a text didn't hear from him until the next day, I texted him back and haven't heard from him since. I really like him and I realize there isn't a damn thing I can do about it, but it just kills me that I'm constantly thinking about all the possible things I did wrong and I know he probably hasn't thought twice about me since the day we exchanged text. Can someone please explain to me why men do things like this!? I wrote him off after we had slept together twice and he hadn't even gotten my number what was his motivation to tell his roommate he was interested in me and then go as far as to ask for my number nearly a month after we had slept together only after these two things took place did I develop a crush on him. I never asked him for anything so why would he do those things was he intentionally trying to hurt my feelings?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 I totally agree Sis, but I am probably old and out of date. I don't understand how you can lie down with a man, allow him to enter your body and kiss you and touch you all over, but then make a big song and dance about giving out a telephone number.
It makes it seem like sex is easy as shaking hands, but talking on the telephone is nearly proposing marriage.
I don't understand at all. Surely you get his name and his contact details before you ever lie down with him. Once might be a mistake. But to sleep with him twice and not know how to contact him, is more than carelessness, it's crazy.
You have sex, and now your worrying if he likes you.. sigh.. all backward and upside down to me. Shouldn't you know he likes you before you agree to sleep with him... TWICE??
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reader, jimrich +, writes (13 September 2010):
re: Can someone please explain to me why men do things like this!?
... The same reason women do it.......IGNORANCE.
What you wrote there is all about bad, inadequate, faulty, poor, foolish communications and horrible relationship skills.
re: was he intentionally trying to hurt my feelings?
.. My guess is that he, like you, just does not KNOW ANY BETTER and so you both blew it due to a basic lack of knowledge.
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good luck
Jim
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): Not all guys will go out and say " i like you " they are just of afraid of rejection as we are.Men like the chase and if you had sex with him the chase may be over for him.I do believe if he wanted to date he would make an effort to get your number and take you out.I dont think he was trying to hurt your feelings intentionally,boys change there mind and i think you should go get your nails down buy a new little black dress get all dolled up and go out with your girls let the boys find you.
Good luck i hoped this helped
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