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writes:This may sound ridiculous but it's quite a big issue for me at the minute.The thing is i'm 17 years old and live at home with my father and sister.This year I have been under immense stress it's just been a really tough time.Now I know I could just soldier on and think "oh well, things will get better"but I can't.I got myself into a bit of a mess a couple of months back by seeing someone double my age - Yes stupid I know! Plus he has 3 children but I got out of it and i'm so stressed about it.I've been having family problems.Somethings changed in me I used to be a confident, fun, outgoing person.Now I just don't seem to want to get out of bed in the morning and if I go out I go alone for a walk to try and clear my head either that or go out drinking and i'm not talking one or two drinks I mean I get totally off my head - it's an escape.I need to get away!!I need a break so badly it's unbelievable!!The thing is i'm short of money so couldn't afford a real holiday or anything like that.All I know is I just desperately need to get away from here no matter what.Please give me some suggestions if you have any.And thank you for taking the time in reading this question!!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): I would go along and have a word with your doctor and see if you can get to the bottom of all of this, but it sounds to me like depression. Dont run away, it will still be there when you come back. Stay and face it and get it sorted out. You will feel a better person at the end of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Hi Hunny
Oh my love I no just where you are coming from, First of all never think you are stupid, As you have learnt something from this even if you dont no it now ok.
When we have relationships and it matters not what age we are or they are.. And they go wrong for what ever reason, its like grieving and thats what I feel you are feeling now, even though you may have wanted out, or not. At your age (And I remember it so well as Id just found my first serious b/f at 17) Life can get so confusing one minute you are bubbly and happy and havent a care in the world the next you feel like this, Its horrible as you cant deal with such a change of heart and yours is all upside down.
BUT DONT GIVE UP OF GETTING YOU BACK OK!!!!!
first the drink may seem to help at the moment but in the long run its going to get you more and more depressed Ive been there to, So you have to knock that on the head for now as its not the answer to your problem its adding to it, If you have a problem with this you can talk with me anytime ok.
When you do cut this out you can save the money as little as it may be but an insentive no less to go somewere for your well deserved break.
Its not easy as it took me awhile untill I realised that drinking my sadness away was only making me happy while having a good time drinking, The next day the pain would be back sweetheart and Im only to willing to help with this, My son has serious alcohol issues and I wouldnt want to see anyone hurt as he does and go through the things that he has.
Not wanting to get out of bed is a sign of depression, Have you someone close you can relate to so you can talk about how you feel, If not love go to your doctor and see if he can point you in the right direction for some support.
You have to believe in youself and your strength as you have amazing strength that at the moment is being looked at as hopelesness through every sad thing that happens in our lives comes an amazing strength and I truely believe that you can overcome this and be a stronger young woman for it.
When I was young I went through a terrible depression and things went the same as you, I couldnt find my way out untill a wise person told me go sit outside and look around you have you forgotten what its like to be a child and it was that moment I got it we grow up but we are always the child within, Not everyone has happy memorys all through there lives love but they have at least one and thats what I do now I remember all the good in life and what and who's around me. You are strong you will come through this anytime you feel down message me and I will do my best to help I hope you feel better very soon with love and hugs MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 Unfortunately you can't take a break from yourself, but you can change your experience. So what do you feel is causing your depression? Could it be the family problems, or the mess you got yourself into. Is there other areas of your life that have changed over this period of time. Are there additional worries you have, maybe with school or career. How was your relationship with this older person. Could you be a bit more specific about the types of family issues you're experiencing. When you clear your mind, what exactly is going through there that is an issue to clear out.
If you could give a bit more information It would be appreciated. That would help better see what may be really causing these negative emotions. Thank you.
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reader, xcore_123 +, writes (20 December 2007):
No, i honestly don;t think you need a to get "away"
you are suffering from something i suffered from
depression and anxiety.
there are certain perscriptions and pills for this.
Like lexapro. Depicode, Prozak, and Zoloft.
My family and i all deal with depression.
you also should consider seeing a counsler. I see a therapist and i can't even tell you what a relief it is to tell someone all of this AND get GREAT feedback:]
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reader, esepalo1 +, writes (20 December 2007):
 Yeah this is around the age and time thing see out of control to many times life passes us by rite i bet you dont even know where it went but first of all you need to appreciate your life becuase life is short if we dont slow down we dont appreciate it this time of season alot of things come into perspetive and we get depressed about what we dont have when we should be thankful for what we do have look at it this way if you really look at it in a different view really think how precious your life is i mean look deep down in side do you think your just a anybody no your not your somebody special you got a perpous in this world even if you dont believe it or you think nah you are look beyond the box ive wrote a couple articles may be some thing in them will help you from you wrote i see your try to hide some pain in your life my getting with an older man by drinking when its over you still got the pain so quit trying to mask it with something thats never gonna stop until you love your self and deal with the issues you got it will never go away.Honestly your story hits close to home i wouldnt give you advice if i didnt relate in a quick lay down growing up had a alcoholic dad mom remarried forgot about me got throwen around from place to place most of my life never had a solid foundation suicidal and depressed most of my life had lots of issues graduated by got shot almost died never wanted to live until i got shot that was a turning point in my life now i love life soo much i value it to the fullest every breath every min in the day and the people in my life this site will help you so much i know it has for me so in the long run.Money doesnt make a holiday friends and family do.If you need to get away take a walk and think of life and hoe precios it is even if at times it gets rough later on you will see what you over came to be the person you are.LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.EVERYTHING YOU GO THREW IN YOUR LIFE IS A LESSON SO LEARN FROM IT TO MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON.MUCH LOVE.
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