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writes:I have just been seeing someone and he has just left me to go back to his ex girlfreind who has just giving birth to his child he said he loves me know i feel like my whole life is runined and i just want to know if he will ever come back to me he said that he want to be apart of his childs life
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 May 2010):
 I'm pretty certain the answer is no I'm afraid, he has done the right thing and is going to try and make things work with his ex so they can be a family. He has a child so he has an obligation to be part of the child's life, and if he can make things work with the mother then even better because the child will have a happy, stable family unit to care for it.
I know it will be hard for you and I'm sure you are very hurt but you need to let him go, he needs to be in this child's life and there is nothing you can do in this situation. You cant have been together very long as pregnancy only takes 9 months, so you must have met him within these last 9 months - therefore really you will get over this quite quickly. This was just a short term relationship, possibly a rebound for him, and now he has accepted his responsibilities and is going to try and be a good dad.
I think you need to come to terms that this was just a short relationship and while you had strong feelings for him, they will go away nearly as quickly as they came on. There are plenty of other guys out there (without kids!) so just give yourself some time to get over this one, and then move on and have some fun.
Dont allow yourself to hope that he will come back, you really dont have much hope of this happening so you will only be fooling yourself and prolonging your pain. Accept that he has gone, and start getting over him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 May 2010):
I don't think he will come back. And even if he did, I don't think it would be worth it. He has a child who he has put first, which is right. But he didn't have to go back to his ex to be part of his child's life. That means that he still loves his ex. Take your time getting over him, get back out there with your friends and you'll meet a guy who does love you. But don't sit there hoping he will come back, and if he does don't take him back.
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reader, Belladonnaanodyne +, writes (7 May 2010):
Probably not. And do you really want him to? Think about it, if he does there will always be that doubt in your mind. He won't stop seeing his child so he'll continue to be in contact with the mother. Could you handle that? You deserve better.
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