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writes:Ok ladies I have been in a discussion with my girlfriend and many other females the age old question here goes . DOES SIZE MATTER ? IS IT THE LENGTH ? IS IT THE GIRTH ? IS IT BOTH ? I am just asking. Please do not assume i am asking this for me its just something me and my GF have had talks about.Feel free to ask what you want about me i am an open book. If you ask me any questions Please at least Answer the one I have posed here today ( With Detail Please why Its your choice ) Thank you Very much Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): Its not the size of the boat its the motion of the ocean!!! lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): From what I understand from my girlfriend, girth is definitely the most important thing (outside of skill, that is), and length is secondary at best. In fact, guys with average length penis' should even consider themselves lucky sometimes. With my girlfriend, my "junk" is the perfect thickness for her, and she loves it, but I'm too long for certain positions! When I was an insecure developing teenager, I didn't even think that was possible! We still have amazing sex (due in large part to our great chemistry, and that we both are skilled and willing in pleasing the other), but I've never gotten more than a little under 3/4 of my full length in her, there just isn't room.
Bottom line is, be happy with what God gave you, and learn how to use it (whether it's short, long, skinny, fat, or average) because knowing what you're doing will be the true "make or break" component of your skills as a lover.
(besides, you cant change of what you've got, so why stress!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Truthfully, I love big ones, but not all women do. I definitely love a fatty!! However, MOST Important is how you treat the woman!!! Right now I'm with a guy who never gets me off even tho i always take care of him... (never really tries - he says it takes me TOO LONG...never say that!)... I only put up with it because I'm between a rock and a hard place and he's my only option for a nookie partner for now... and believe it or not, he has a TINY penis, too... We have unbelievable chemistry and he turns me on in seconds. If he were caring to me, the sex would be great regardless of his weasel penis, but he's selfish and narrow-minded instead. I'm so hungry for physical touch/fulfillment that I put up with him (I love him, dammit) but never before or again will I SETTLE. Having a small fella is okay if you learn what SHE needs. Make her cum first, and you'll have a devoted friend for life! I've read that beyond the first couple inches there's very little feeling inside the vagina - this is pretty true for me - so give it all you've got, and love the package you were born with - especially because it works and you're able to use it, etc... Lots of people aren't so fortunate! Learn to care about your partner and show it, then FORGET about your size and be proud of your little sailor. Life's short, so get down to bidness, young man!! (*p.s. Bonus: it's way easier to give a killer bj to a guy with a small one !!)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 I once read a marvelous article about what a woman loves about a man. The condensed version was that women are far more interested in a man's lips, eyes and hands, and that although they weren't ignorant of what a well-trained penis could do, a penis and it's size were far more the worry of it's owner.
A movie that I watched today had a statement by a couple of women who described how you should simply cut the figure in half when a man describes his size in inches! So If a penis size is SOoooo important to women, as you suspect that it is and we are all lying, how come we're All still sleeping with You Men? I am guessing It's not your penis size that impresses us! It's how you make us feel!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Size matters.
And how you use it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I ahve to say it depends on the woman. I have friends who aren't interested if a guy is less than 9". On the other hand, personally, I'm more of an equal opportunity woman. That said, some of my best lovers (including my current bf) aren't the most hung, but damn if i just don't crave his dick at all times of the day. I've been with bigger, but his is by far the best.
Personally, I have found that guys with the biggest penises sometimes make the worst lovers, because for some godforsaken reason they seem to think that their penis is all a woman needs, and they totally skip foreplay and just plunge right in, which bores the hell out of me. I pretty much just lay there, count the cracks on the ceiling tiles and figure that when this is over, its the last he'll ever see of me. Whereas men with smaller penises, want to make up for it with all kinds of wonderful foreplay (I won't get graphic) and I just love them to death for it.
Anyway, my $.02.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (5 March 2009):
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oh, and goes without saying that any one that is fully alert and responsive at all times is bound to become a favourite ; )
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reader, natasia +, writes (5 March 2009):
Size only matters if it is VERY extreme, and even then, arrangements can be made, shall we say.
In my (humble) opinion, length is almost preferable if average, but how it feels is very much to do with what yr guy does with his hips. There is definitely such a thing as too long, trust me!
I think girth is probably the thing that people feel more than length (unless v long, in which case can be dangerously so!). I am also sure, though, that there are various levels of arousal/hardness, and definitely girth usually increases with this - so crucial to make sure is as aroused as possible ; )
OK, if I am totally honest, there is a certain length and girth of dick that makes it easier to give women orgasms just from sex. HOWEVER, this really really really isn't the holy grail with women (well, not with me), and also that size dick is often much less comfortable for blowjobs (; ) - so one doesn't do them as much, if at all. If I had to go into a shop and choose, I would go for absolute average all round, as is the most, well, um, versatile : )
The most important thing really about one's dick, I think, as a woman, is that it is always scrupulously clean ... then one can forgive it almost anything ; )
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Length depends on how deep or shallow the woman's vagina is. But from everything Ive talked about with my GF's, girth is the make or break.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (5 March 2009):
 I love a funny joke and this reminded me of one "I prefer short and stubby!"
He said "I can touch the entire side of a tuna can at one time, . . . just not the bottom.
FA
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reader, asian tealeaf +, writes (5 March 2009):
 i believe every womens prefernce may differ, but, most women will agreee the bigger, the more it will hurt when deep penetration occurs. u can be long, and very thin in girth. and its no fun, for the man, as he wont feel much friction, and the women wont either, but he can be short in size and have amazing girth and yum yum, its sex to die for. it depends. i know a lot of guys who are hung, and cant get laid if their lives depended on it. women see their hammers and run the other way. and well, its the same for guys with micro dick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Length is mostly irrelevant; its all about girth. I hate to be the one dissenting voice, when everyone's like, "It's how you use it!" etc., but there is such a thing as too big, and there is such a thing as too small. I prefer short and stubby! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): yes indeed size matters you want to feel it inside you not lay there and wonder if its in or not
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 March 2009):
 That's funny! One of our aunts just wrote a great article on this very topic. Here's the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/on-penis-size-debunking-the-myths.html
You'll find my answer to this question on that thread. It is difficult for men to believe that for us women, it isn't about the physical characteristics of the appendage as much as it is about what the rest of the man (along with his appendage) is doing, has done, and is about to do. We're more about the total package than an individual item in the package. I know that's not the answer you want to hear, but maybe it will help you look at this topic from within the crazy framework of a woman's mind.
So to answer your question, does size matter, the answer is yes, and the ideal size is the one that fits well. That varies by individual. The size of a man's penis tells you nothing about what kind of lover he is. A man could have the most perfectly sculpted penis, like something from one of those renaissance sculptures, and be a total disaster in bed.
Hope this helps you in your quest for knowledge!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (5 March 2009):
 its how you use it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Personally size doesnt matter to me all that much. When I was a little younger it did but as I have gotten older and discovered sex more I think that it is not all that important. I do, however, prefer a guy to have a little girth. I mean not to be too graphic but i want to really FEEL the guy when he is doing his thing you know? But if a man isn't blessed with length and/or girth as long as he can please his lady thats all that matters to us girls (my friends and I at least). Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Size does matter, the women that say it don't are lieing.
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