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writes:I got some great answers from some guys on this but was hoping for a female point of view :)Hi, please help im getting sad :)I have worked with a girl for a year now. up until 2 and a half months ago i had a girlfriend. i always liked the girl i worked with but would never dream of cheating. the girl from work dated a guy from work too but he cheated on her and they split bout 4 months ago it was a bit messy and public at work. i have told the girl how i feel about her and we have always been good friends. other people in work have also said to both of us that we should go outbecause we get on so well. we txt each other all the time. she said that she didnt want to go out cause after the split with the guy from work she saw a guy but it was complicated and she is still getting over it and severing the ties. this was a few months ago that they split. she said that she doesnt want a relationship till she is over it and this is the reason and she is not protecting my feelings. we went a drive on mon night to a 24 hr supermarket to get a present for her friends boy. we are also goin to drop her car off at my fathers garage on fri and then go to lunch to celebrate her moving dept at work, but as friends. we have such good fun together and others think so too. i think that maybe she wants to see how we get on in thse situations 1st and that if i am there for her and impress her then maybe when she is ready she will want more.......please help what do u think.....thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): well thats what i hope too! we just spent like 12 hours solid together driving about and had dinner :) we will see i suppose
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Smelly is a pet name.....my best friend uses it for the people shes close to....so i say its a good sign!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha she hasnt txt me for 2 days and just txt me bout tomo. by starting the txt hi smelly... is that a good indicator too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys all great advice thanks very much for your time i appreciate it. she does seem quite adamant she doesnt want a relationship but surely she would distance herself from me? time will tell i suppose.....thankyou all very much :)
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Hmm, it sounds quite likely to be a test! I wouldn't invite a guy into those situations just on a friendly basis, especially if I knew they were interested in me (although I do know of others who might.) You do need to prove not to be like her ex. However I would just be really friendly with her unless she does anything suggestive. You wouldn't want to find you'd misread the singns (unlikely) and acted upon them. Lets hope she does and good luck!
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (30 July 2009):
Thats what you have to do is show your not like her ex!! Lucky for you your spending alot of time with her so you can do this....if she likes you sooner or later she will give in to you.....just give it time!
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reader, SweetStu +, writes (30 July 2009):
 I know you asked for a females point of view but I can relate to this so thought I'd throw in my two cents.
First of all you sound like a top fellow with your morals and sure women wish there were more guys like you around. :o)
The tricky thing is here, once you are a very good friend already, the girl sees you as that and maybe relies on you as just that. Due to her recently ending relationship, and your own for that matter. You both need to in your own heads work out where you are and what's going on fully. It sounds as though she needs to do this more than yourself.
Definitely be careful and give her some breathing space. But still tell her what you really think when it's meaningful. I don't mean pour your heart out to her, but be honest and if you have a particularly wonderful time with her on an occasion, let her know that.
By doing that you're still being a friend and just being honest and reassuring that your time together is quality and you treasure it. If things will happen then they will in time. I know it can be hard as you sound sure that you would like a relationship with her.
As the old saying goes - "Good things come to those who wait."
Good luck with it and hope happiness comes to you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Like Gina said, be her friend first. You don't want to be the rebound guy..
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