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writes:Me and this girl started dating a week ago, and i do like her alot and would love for this to continue for a long time, but she already has 2 kids which i am fine with and will treat them like my own, except i always wanted a child of my own, with my DNA. But i just found out that she dosent want anymore kids.What do i do?, do i break up with her and find someone else, or is there some way to convince her to have just one more?(P.S. Im not asking for one as soon as possible, i am young and can wait 5 years to have one) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): If you're really serious about this girl, you need to seriously think about marrying her. She's already been left stranded with children by other men. Of course she's going to say that she doesn't want any more! If you put her needs before your own and demonstrate to her that you are in the relationship for the long haul and you will not abandon her, she may change her tune. Don't push her though. That kind of trust can take years to develop.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 I agree that you guys need to have some time to get to know each other before tackling 'the big issues' - however, I also think that knowing someone has a completely opposing view on something ...well, that is likely to impact on your relationship anyway, it will be something you both think about even if it isn;t discussed.
Did you tell her you want kids? How did you find out her desire to have no more already?
I think you should wait before deciding to give up on this lady...just take things a bit slower and see how things stand when you know each other a bit better....the only thing I would suggest is that you exercise caution with her children...don;t you get too close/connected to them if there is the chance you are not gonna be in this for the long haul.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): you should just tell her how you feel about the situation and see if she changes her mind. the truth will set you free
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 You've just started dating. Give yourselves the time to get to know each other... along the way the relationship could end, she could change her mind, you could change your mind, the war might be over. I mean... give time to time! A week is not even enough time to be asking yourself this question. Enjoy this beautiful moments and let things unfold. If, in some prudent time you feel she is the love of your life and you want a child with her, then sit down a talk and have an open conversation on the subject.
Best of lucks!
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