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writes:im 14 and i have a boyfriend who is turning 15 in two monthsyesterday i was text messaging with him and me asked if i had ever had sex, i said no. He asked me if i would like to have sex with him, i was shoked and alarmed, i picked up my phone and called him to see what the fuck was going on he said it was a jjoke...i was still worried. through the day he kept sending me wierd messages realted to sex and i replied one with have YOU ever had sex... he said that he could only ever have sex with mei am worried but he ends up saying its a joke all the time...give me some advice please because i love him so much and i have told him im not ready...what do i do??
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Nice response, Danielepew!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Yeap, it's Spanish and English :-).
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 December 2007):
In English and Spanish, for other people to add their opinions, and because it would be so unnatural for two Mexicans to communicate in English:
Tu novio quiere que duermas con él y no te va a decir si ya estuvo con alguien o no.
Your boyfriend wants you to sleep with him, and he wouldn't say whether he was with someone else before or not.
Me parece que tienes miedo de que te deje si no consientes en acostarte con él. Si así son las cosas, es mejor que se vaya. No te dejes presionar.
It seems to me you're afraid he'll leave you if you won't agree to sleeping with him. If this is how things are, it's best if he goes away. Don't let him pressure you into it.
Dile lo que nos dijiste a nosotros: que todavía no quieres acostarte con él. Si no le gusta, que se vaya. Todavía estás demasiado chica para este tipo de cosas.
Tell him what you have told us: you aren't ready to sleep with him just yet. If he doesn't like it, he may go away. You're still too young to get into this sort of things.
Cuídate.
Take care.
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Unfortunately it does sound like he is very keen on going that step further with you. It is good though that you have expressed your feelings to him, and told him that you are not ready to have sex yet - this might not perhaps be enough.
What you need to do is tell him that his recent comments have made you worry and that even though it was a joke it still sounded serious (often guys use the excuse "it was a joke" to back out of replies they wasn't expecting) - tell him that his comments have made him you feel insecure and that you feel he only wants sex nothing else.
If he truely loves you, he'll back down - apologise, give you a cuddle and not mention it again until you give a sign that you're ready to go a step further with him - if he still persists, tell him again but with more force.. unfortunately its then up to you to decide whether or not to carry on with him, if he is not respecting your wishes as an individual.
Ryan
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (27 December 2007):
 just tell him your scared with what hes saying and tell him that your not ready but make it clear make a convo with him and start talking to him about it and then say if you tried to carry on giving me dirty messages and trying to get me to have sex while im not ready im going to leave you just make him aware and if he loves you loads he will understand hope this helps xx
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