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writes:I cut off my 4-year GF, cold turkey, after I caught her cheating. She called (and e-mailed) a few times on the first day. It's been 4 days (no contact)......when should I expect the pscyho-ex-girlfriend problems to start? What should I expect?
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reader, Garm +, writes (2 March 2010):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, it's not that I want her to call (though, I have to admit I do check the phone whenever I come home). It's rather that I've tried to end it with this girl a few times, and it never seems to stick (she tempts me with sex, etc.). I hope it really is over this time though.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (2 March 2010):
 Dont expect them to start.
If you went No Contact then stick to it.
delete her phone number and block her email address.
You dont want to be with a cheater dude, they are bloodsuckers.
Make her insignificant. The only way to get over someone is to make them insignificant. and that means doing a complete 180 and letting them know by your deafening silence that you will live without them.
I think you are hoping she does contact you. Be careful for what you wish for. Oh and get tested for STD's because you never know if she had protected sex or not, after all you weren't there.
Love may not be forever, but Herpes is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Are you hoping for the ex GF to contact you? Sounds like it. Don't be disappointed if she doesn't contact you. You made the right decision - move on. Easier said then done, I know. But sounds like you're just waiting for her to contact you... sad. Move on, dude.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 March 2010):
Well, hopefully they won't start. But watch out for things coming through the post, or random phone calls. But I don't think anything will happen. And don't take her back either.
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reader, jc82 +, writes (1 March 2010):
 There really isn't a set pattern of behavior for this type of situation. Maybe she wasn't that invested in the relationship anymore anyway (considering she was cheating), and she will just quietly disappear from your life. Hope for the best, hope that you can move on and get over her quickly and that she will do the same. On the other hand, maybe you have some crazy feelings that need be released? Ex-boyfriends can be "psycho" as well, and you have a reason to be. Maybe I am reading too much into it, but it sounds in your question like you wish she was still trying to contact you. Which could mean you actually want to contact her. Try to figure yourself out. Good luck...
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Ah not all of us are pscyho's dude. I think you'd know if she was going to behave like that cause you would have had complete hysterics by now. I'd say she's accepted that she messed up and that the relationship is over. Period.
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