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writes:My boyfriend went to visit his hometown a few weeks ago for a week after we had had a huge bust up and I thought we had finished until a few days after he left I spoke to him and we were ok. Since he's been back our relationship has been brilliant he says that since he was away without me hes realised how much he loves me and actually wants to be with me etc. But a couple of days ago I got messages on facebook from a stranger telling me my boyfriend had been with his ex while he was away and that he made her believe they were back together.. he denies it and says he doesn't know what that person is on about. Then later that night he had angry messages from his ex saying she felt used and that he stayed at her place then disappeared. He says that she's just trying to break us up because she loves him.. but I can't see what she would be gaining from lying about this. She even got her mother to send me a message saying that it was true. Whatever happens I want to ignore it anyway, as he went there while we were on bad terms, and we're a lot stronger since he's been back. I just can't get it out of my head and the thought that he's lying to me.I don't know what to do... I don't want to lose him whatever happened because I believe we're more serious since he's been back, but I can't cope with this on my head.He has got a history of cheating on ex's and on me once when we first got together.. I've only just gotten over that, then this happens.
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reader, Dr.love23  +, writes (2 February 2011):
Here is the bottom line. Its so obvious and clear to see that he did cheat on you with his ex. I know he's being all nice to you since he got back. And that is because he felt guilty that he cheated on you. And he probably is going to do it again in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm also confused as to why this stranger and his ex have waited a few weeks before mentioning anything about it?
And his ex rekons she doesn't know who the stranger is that sent me the messages and that she had a message of him aswell.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (1 February 2011):
I am afraid to say it, but I agree with everyone else!
I believe he did get up to something with his ex, and he has come back all nicey nice to try and cover up what he has done should the S*** hit the fan! I don't feel for one minute that he is being nice through guilt... guys like him don't ever feel guilty!
But you say you are happy to stay with him no matter what! I seriously think you need to reconsider your future with this guy especially as you have stated that he has cheated in past relationships. I don't think he will change for you hun despite you perhaps hoping he will!
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reader, Odds +, writes (1 February 2011):
 He's cheated more than once - and more importantly, he knows that if he cheats on you, you'll keep dating him. He almost certainly did cheat on you again.
In any event, if you love him, and his ex loves him, despite his cheating ways, odds are he is very, very good at manipulating people, and nothing he says can be trusted. I'm guessing he's got a lot of social savvy, and generalyl is confident, or even dominant with other people? If so, run, he's cheated and is going to again.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2011):
I almost said that his ex might be lying, until right at the end you'd admitted that he's cheated on other ex's, and even you.
I now think he's 100% cheated, and I think you'd be mad to stay with him.
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