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writes: are confident men scared to ask a women they are attractive to out .?meet a man an he has flirted with me now for about 4 month now . let me say we only see each other for a short time each time he get a little more comfortable with me but he has never ask me out nor for my number . but i do think he is a confident man . but this lady i know that has know him longer than me says he is shy . so any advice would be greatly appericate ,thanks
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reader, forever58 +, writes (2 February 2011):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he is not married .but i do not know about a girlfriend . we both lived in different town .he lives about an hour from me .could there be any signs that he would give off if he had a girlfriend ?
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (1 February 2011):
I agree with caring guy. If you are interested in this guy, why not ask him out. Keep it casual -- like meet up for coffee or lunch or something.
Some guys are naturally shy or just don't want to get rejected. Maybe he doesn't want to appear to be coming on too strong. It could also be that he is unavailable (he might be married or have a girlfriend).
The only way to find out for sure, though, is for you to make the first move.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): I second CaringGuy.
Ask him out.
Guys really appreciate this. It is perhaps the biggest form of flattery to a guy and he will think highly of you for taking the risk.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2011):
I would say I'm relatively confident. In turn, I've always asked a woman I like out. I've never had to leave it to a woman, and I've never stood around hoping.
Of course, the majority of the time, I've been turned down.
Maybe that's the problem with this guy. I've had a few girlfriends, but I've had a lot of failures too. And it can get to a man, especially if he's unsure about whether you like him.
Also, we are now in a world where a man doesn't have to make the first move. It is acceptable for a woman to suggest a date. Maybe try that?
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