A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I recently took a great woman out on a date on Sunday and had an amazing time. We both fell into easy conversation and tentatively planned on going out swing dancing the following Friday night. I waited until Tuesday night to give her a call about Friday. It is now Wednesday afternoon, and I have not heard anything back from her. We attend the same university, however, we do not have any classes together. I do not text or use Facebook, and she knows this... am I being paranoid or is she just not in to me?
View related questions:
am I being paranoid, facebook, text, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 February 2010):
Call her again and leave a message. Try again on Thursday if you get no response. After that leave it and let her get into contact with you.
A
female
reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 February 2010):
I agree, you need to give some more info. If you just called and you're relying on caller ID to let her know you called, then she'll just assume it's not that important if you didn't leave a message.
So either she is busy, she's playing hard-to-get, or she's not interested. If you don't hear from her today, call her tomorrow. If you still get nothing then drop her.
...............................
A
male
reader, mr uk +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Firstly I sympathise with you. I spent years of my life feeling exactly the same way you do now. Go on a first date, all goes swimmingly then nothing.Thanksfully I now know differently and I can assure you that with some great coaching you can get the women you deserve. But one things for sure - DO NOT FEEL PARANOIDOne tip: Attraction!!!Women have to feel attracted to you!!Now that may sound obvious, but it doesn't matter how nice you are, how sincere and genuine you are or indeed how high you are on morality, if a woman doesn't find you attractive then she isn't going to date you.The good news is being attractive to women is a skill you can learn. EASILY!!I've spent the last year dating some stunners and being spoilt for choice when it comes to women and I have a mate to thank for it all. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, Lexie88  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 So I'm guessing you left a voicemail message? I think you still have today and half of tomorrow before you can get paranoid. She could be busy. But if it comes to Friday and you haven't heard from her, I'd say she's either not that keen, is too busy or has a few other things going.
I think you've done the right things so far. What did you say in your message? Whether you just said hello or whether you mentioned Friday, I'd say that any woman who was interested would be getting back to you as soon as she could.
So hang tight and hopefully she's just been busy and will get in touch. If you do hear from her 'eventually' I'd reconsider her level of interest. Just be patient for now.
Good luck :)
...............................
A
female
reader, happy24birthday +, writes (24 February 2010):
 It's hard to get in touch with someone by phone alone these days. Did you leave a message when you called? Call her again right now and again later in the evening if she doesn't answer. Try her one more time Thursday and make sure you leave a message. If you don't hear anything back, forget about the swing dancing and leave her alone for at least a week.
...............................
|
