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writes:I've been feeling depressed recently due to many things. Mainly school, growing up, and love. I'm going to be a senior in college and I'm studying business. But I hate business because I dislike math. I can't stand all these graphs, numbers, and logic but I didn't know this when I signed up for my major when I was young. It's already too late to turn back, I don't want to waste another 2 years in university. I'm already one year behind. Because I'm uninterested in my major, I'm only a C-average student. B-average in general education. I know I should work harder but it's so difficult to keep focus. Also I work at a restaurant 5 night shifts a week which is very tiring. I opted out of getting an internship because I feel like I don't qualify. My grades aren't good enough and I'm just unhappy with everything. Recently my boyfriend and I broke up due to arguments. We basically couldn't agree on anything although we really loved one another. So it's another thing on my mind. I changed my major once already so many of my friend will graduate on time while I won't. Some are going to grad school and some will teach abroad. I really want to teach English abroad in Asia but I'm afraid that if things don't work out, I won't be able to get a good job here since I left just after graduation. I barely have time to see friends which makes me sad. I just feel down in general. Now that I know my passions I wish I can go back in time but it's too late. I feel like I'm stuck on a dessert. I've lived in the same small town my entire life and it's getting depressing. I need a change. What should I do?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 July 2012):
 Ahhh, present memories. I was lucky and double majored in theater and psychology. Theater I love. I feel passionately about it, and I love every second of learning and improving on myself. I can't say the same for Psych. It was great for the first two years, and then it turned into number, graphs, scientific writing, and other various levels of crap that I have no interest in. I feel you. I do.
But I'm so far along, that now I feel like I must complete it. I've worked too much (if not hard) towards it to let it go.
Business is such a valuable major in todays world. It's applicable to nearly everything and can get you into any field you please.
As for love - as my Mom says, "you either break up... or you die". Which is morbid, but true. A relationship will run it's course, or you'll do the together-forever thing and then die. You will find the right person for you. As my trusty Mother also says, "you may be a great girl, and he may be a great guy, but you might not be each other's great girl and great guy". There's merit in all she says.
And after school, perhaps it's time to treat new territory. Don't trap yourself. Explore! Move! Who cares if you don't have a plan or a base where you're going? Just go! Do it! Maybe it's not the best advice, but I've always been a "go where the wind blows you" kinda gal, and my life has been full of adventure, experience, and networking for a future.
Finish your degree. That will give you opportunities. And then live life! Do something! Nobody can make it happen but you. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, kaiti30 +, writes (22 July 2012):
 Even with your major, you still will graduate college, wich is good! you can still get good jobs not doing what you majored in! or if you want to do other things, you dont have to major, theres small classes you can take to get you on your way! in your down time id try to relax as much as you can and keep telling yourself your doing alot more thhrn some people! and when all this is done your life will be much better cause youll have more options!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): Hi,
Sorry to hear that you're feeling depressed.
I have read through your question and I thought: The best way to find motivation is to do something you enjoy doing/look forward to doing. It could apply to studies (major choices at uni/in high school), work, hobbies. You say that you are going to be a Senior in Business in college? Since you can't change your major, I think you're better off completing your business degree. Hold on even if you can't push yourself to work harder. Then, once you graduate maybe you could look at how you could train to teach English abroad. Please don't put a ceiling on your dreams, ambitions, yourself, be bold, apply for what you really want. Sometimes, it's not just about the grades you got, it's also about who you are and your experiences. If you can afford it, take a gap year after your degree, the ideal would be that you spend your gap year getting experience related to the job you want to do. Do you intend on working in the Business industry? Do you simply want to teach? Think about what you want, where you see yourself in a few years (in 5 years for example). Try to be as specific as possible. Also, use your college careers services, they might be able to advise on what you can do after college.
Now, for your own well-being, I think that if you could reduce the number of shifts you do you'd probably feel better/less tired. Can you? The thing is the lack of sleep contributes to you feeling miserable.
I can't really advise you on your love life but I'll finish on this: to have a balanced life you need to strive and dedicate time to each of the following areas: family, self(have some "me time"), friends, work, partner.
Good luck on everything.
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