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writes:what is wrong with me? i've had sex about 7 times and i still haven't felt anything good. my boyfriend is on top and i just lay there. we also tried me on top and him behind me but it hurt for some reason. my cherry is popped so that can't have anything to do with it. his penis goes all the way in but it hurts so bad. it feels like a shock kind of and i just have to stop.. what is wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): So, anonymous female, how dare you say my advice is wrong. I am not saying it's right, it's just another angle for the poster to consider. Try reading my reply carefully. Who the hell are you to say so-and-so is right and so-and-so is wrong? What happened to democracy? If you don't have anything new to add besides belittling others' answers - may I politely suggest you butt out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Oh hun please don't to listen to those posters here who are suggesting you should carry on practising underage sex because that's exactly the reason why you should stop for the moment...because you're underage! Saltwater is totally right, of course it is going to hurt...you're not an adult yet!!! "pious moralistic tone"....what pure rubbish. Underage sex is dangerous for all sorts of reasons so that's why it's illegal. Seriously, wait until you're older then you can start to enjoy sex better; emotionally as well as physically.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): To my personal knowledge, girls your age have been having sex like forever. My first, she was 16, had been active and enjoying sexual intercourse since the age of 12 and that was decades ago. Everyone keeps saying folk are developing and maturing earlier so where's the argument, apart from legally, that you're too young?
Of course, everyone's different, maybe you are too physically underdeveloped but it's probably more to do with your guy's lack of technique and experience.
-gemma-1990-s advice is good. Sound, no-nonsense advice without the pious moralistic tone that some here give.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 July 2008):
I agree with saltwater.
You are a child and that is why your body can't enjoy it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (24 July 2008):
 i agree with saltwater on this, your body is fully developed and wont be till your atleast 16.. and for some people having sex underage can give them problems in the future..so if i were you i would wait till your 16.. and i hope your using protection or be prepared to be a mother.. aphex
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 It may be that you're body may not be ready for this kind of thing. It is not uncommon for girls to NOT experience sex pleasently until thier late teens.
It can also mean that your partner is just not very skilled and is thrusting too deeply which can hurt if he is hitting the neck of your womb. You may have a very low neck to your womb as well, meaning he may also be too long for you and will have to change how he strokes.
Either of these things is NOT a good idea as there are many things that can happen to you that I am sure you will find even more unpleasent, like incontinence. You can damage yourself by doing this and can be left unable to hold much water and from that you can get cystitis and thrush. I dont really recommend either. You can also, I am sure you know, can get pregnant and let me tell you that you will find that far more uncomfortable. So if you must, be sure you are on birth control and using condoms.
Take care
HonningKanin
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reader, saltwater +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Whoa, hang on. Seven times? You're underage, so it's no wonder you're in pain...your body isn't properly developed yet...it's not really ready for a penis being thrusted all the way in.
Long story short; wait a few years until your body is properly developed before you attempt to have sex again.
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