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writes: hello there!okay so this is quite a long confusing question/problem but im hoping people can help!anyways...ages ago i went to this place (i dont really wanna name it) and i saw this lad there and i was like omg! lol anyways i was guessing that he was 19 or something and am only 14 and i caught his eye a few times and whatever...he works at this place.i went back to this place again and again and he wasnt there.then today i went back and he was there and i was really shocked and kind of fell for him all over again. i think he probs has a girlfriend. but how can i get over this mad crush!!?? it seems more like a crush to be but then again it always does. i really dont wanna sound soppy or anything but ave already had my heart broken more than once so i dont want it shattered all over again! :'( ..... i will be grateful for any advice or help or suggestions! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): the first thing that u should do is talk wit him and get to know him,sometimes if he looks cute wit a nice smile and cute eyes dont make it seem perfect u know wat i mean,maybe u should talk to him and honestly i think that he will break ur heart i mean i might be wrong but idk
his like 19 and ur only 14 thats a little hard cuz maybe his in college and all college guys want to get layed somehow
but good luck
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I think the first thing you should stop doing is visiting where he works.
After that, try to entertain yourself by doing some hobby. If you don't have a hobby, you could think of one by thinking of what you like. For example, if you like to draw, you could start drawing or painting more. It can be anything. You'll see that after a while you'll start focusing in what you're doing and less on him.
You could also hang out more with your friends. They will surely keep you entertained and the image of this guy will probably never appear on your head.
Also realize your state. You're 14, underage, and he's around 19, an adult. The two of you having a relationship is looked down upon and it's illegal if you two end up having sex. He can end up in jail and you may end up with a very broken heart plus the deseption of your peers and family. Also, guys at his age will only see girls at your age as a prize who they can fuck. He will probably only use you for his sexual urges and will probably never seek any serious relationship with you. Also realize his interests and way of life will be different than yours. He works while you don't. He pays bills while you don't. He has a different thinking of life while you're still learning about it.
All of the above is to help you realize that your chances are next to 0, and if you actually get hooked up with him, it will lead you to a broken heart. So realizing that it will be very hard to have a relationship with him will probably program your brain and your heart to forget about him.
Good luck and don't get in trouble.
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reader, mamasaidknockyouout +, writes (16 July 2008):
lame! love at first sight is just something little. I just now recently messed up my relationship style but whatevs. I mean like get to know him first you know? right nowits just eye candy.
have you ever been in a real relationship? I think once you have you'll realize the difference.
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