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*amasaidknockyouout
writes:I'm 15 and I haven't been in a relationship in a year because I don't think I can handle it anymore. whenever I've been in one I was always stressed out. Especially during school because I'm in almost all honors/ap classes and 2 year ahead in math and I try my best to maintain all a's. there's been a couple times where I got a B but that's besides the point (: so anywho my best guy friend of like 10 years introduced me to his bestie he's known a year less than me. we met at an amusement park, because my guy bestie ALWAYS comes with me lol, almost 3 years ago. I had a MAJOR crush on him and he was flirting. my bestie AND my sister noticed we liked each other. it wasn't until a year later we saw each other again. we exchanged numbers and texted and called each other a lot. I like him so much but it seems he's less interested in me. I feel like a total slut for this but I gave him head 3 times because he talked me into it and I made out with him every chance I got. I wanted it to work with us. now I feel I'm being too obssesive for us to be together but he doesn't want a relationship. I feel totally used but he's not an ass about it. he talked about FWB but I was like no. I feel disrespected and confused and like a bad person. he lost interest in talking to me now. if he ever does its just sexual I don't like it. I try talking to him about this stuff he just doesn't seem too caring anymore. I'm a really kind person and wanted to satisfy him by giving him what he wanted. luckily he wasn't ready for sex because he's never done anything with a girl. but I would like to say that he wanted to do stuff to me and I wouldn't allow it. but I don't know. he's besties with my bestie. wtf do I do? how do i have a friendship with out it being awkward and how do I eliminate the temptations with him? he's really attractive and I'm not.I'm forreal though I'm 5'4" and 215lbs. its horrible. it just seems like there's no one I like that likes me. the 2 guys that do are druggies. no me gusta. I lost respect for myself before this and now more. ): help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Hey there,Firstly at your age I wouldn't worry, I'll be straight with you, I'm 27, I met my now wife when I was 16, I love my wife to bits, but there is a huge part of me that wishes I hadn't jumped into a long term relationship that early. I never got to have fun and enjoy being young, I havn't had the excitment of a new realtionship since I was 15, and I regret that. Also honey, please for your own sake don't do anything sexual with him again unless YOU want to, you'll regret it for the rest of your life otherwise. You mentioned about your weight, for what its worth, I have a friend who's considered "very attractive" amongst women, yet he loves "heavier" girls. Just because your not a size 0 (btw being that skinny is disgusting) doesn't mean your not beautiful. My favourite feature on my wife is her gorgeous eyes, its nothing to do with her body or height. Honey your just as worthy, if not more worthy of respect than everyone else. Also please keep doing well with your studies, I was picked on in school for being small and clever, now I'm 27, I'm 6 ft 1 and a lawyer, just focus on what important, and most importantly, love yourself. Good luck :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Hey there,Firstly at your age I wouldn't worry, I'll be straight with you, I'm 27, I met my now wife when I was 16, I love my wife to bits, but there is a huge part of me that wishes I hadn't jumped into a long term relationship that early. I never got to have fun and enjoy being young, I havn't had the excitment of a new realtionship since I was 15, and I regret that. Also honey, please for your own sake don't do anything sexual with him again unless YOU want to, you'll regret it for the rest of your life otherwise. You mentioned about your weight, for what its worth, I have a friend who's considered "very attractive" amongst women, yet he loves "heavier" girls. Just because your not a size 0 (btw being that skinny is disgusting) doesn't mean your not beautiful. My favourite feature on my wife is her gorgeous eyes, its nothing to do with her body or height. Honey your just as worthy, if not more worthy of respect than everyone else. Also please keep doing well with your studies, I was picked on in school for being small and clever, now I'm 27, I'm 6 ft 1 and a lawyer, just focus on what important, and most importantly, love yourself. Good luck :).
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 This guy sounds dodgey to me. If he keeps talking you into giving him head etc then I dont think he respects you much at all. The fact he seems to have lost interest in you proves this. You need to move on: find someone else. You certainly sound like a nice person, so there's bound to be someone who is right for you.
And trust me, I know how horrible that feeling can be: that no-one likes you. I've been there, and havent moved: never had a girlfriend. So you see, there are people in similar situations, and the best advice I can give on this subject is to try and forgeet your feelings for this boy, regardless of who his best friend is. Make it clear that you're either going to have a relationship with him, or not. You must not let him think he can control you.
It will be difficult, but when you regain complete control of this situation, I think it'll work out for the best.
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reader, mamasaidknockyouout +, writes (16 July 2008):
mamasaidknockyouout is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm aware, its just I've stopped caring a whole lot and idk what's wrong. any advice on eliminating as much awkwardness as possible? I chill with my guy bestie a couple times a week and 90% of the time his other bestie is there. everytime we're together we're both really turned on and he's definitely in control of what I do to him. I just draw the line when he sticks his hand down my pants, you know? and sadly, but honestly, I love the feeling of doing stuff for him, sexually, romantically, or friendly, I spoil him and pay for him all the time when he chills. he's tried sneaking mula into my purse but I notice and take it out. I like spoiling him. I like him. I'm so benevolent with him. what am I doing wrong for him not to like me? I'm lame ):
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reader, asdasdsadas +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Your still in school :),
Wait a few years, till you are like 18-20.
You can then go clubbing/bars etc etc,
School first :D.
Don't you worry! there will be someone!
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