A
female
age
36-40,
*weetspicy
writes:Dear cupid,I dont understand what I'm doing wrong or if anything at all. I know what I am attracted to but it seems that every time I get involved with some one I get let down each time worse than the time before. Then I see my relatives and friends happily married, I seem to be very jealous in wanting what they have. I intend to find Mr. Right but where is he? I have dated guys from clubs, through friends/family, concerts, my friends older brother, my best friend, the internet guy, the nieghbor, my favorite dj, co worker, and the guy from high school, the guy from the mall ect. none in wich lasted any longer than 2 years. To me it's not that I'm unattractive or cant talk to guys, it seems that every guy I end up dating is worse than the one before in their own awful unbarable way. It seems that I will be alone for ever and will never find someone I can have that special bond with.Has anyone else ever had this problem? Where should I look for Mr. Right? What are the signs that he is Mr. Right? How do I know he isnt right under my nose and I just am to stupid to see him?
View related questions:
best friend, co-worker, jealous, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sweetspicy +, writes (9 April 2010):
sweetspicy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay maybe I need to rephrase this question and thank you all for your answers!
A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 April 2010):
You're looking to hard. Men are not stupid and are actually more perceptive than they seem. To me, you come across as a girl who is trying too hard, and to a man that can be scary. so relax a little bit more, and instead of dating loads of guys, sit down and work out what think about what you're looking for. Then slow down, get to know men and you'll meet them. But don't continually date loads of men.
...............................
A
female
reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 April 2010):
It sounds like you're looking too hard. You want some guy to fit every aspect of some criteria you have and if he doesn't have it then he's not right. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but if you do have too high of expectations, you're only setting yourself up for disappointment. If it's guy after guy after guy, then I guess it is safe to assume that the problem isn't them...
You just haven't met the right guy yet, and that's okay. I haven't either. I haven't been interested in the people I've dated in a long time. Sometimes it does seem hopeless, but I don't worry about it too much. Sure, I get lonely sometimes; but I'd rather be lonely than settle and be with someone just so I can have someone.
So take it easy. Be patient and don't put so much pressure on finding Mr. Right. Enjoy yourself and don't overanalyze your date. If he comes off as a woman beater, then definitely stay away! But the more you worry about it, the more depressed you'll feel and the more depressed you feel, the more negativity you draw towards you.
...............................
A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 If you are not finding your Mr. Right , it means that you have too high an expectation from the guys. You need to lower down your barriers a bit.Your high barriers put off a lot of men.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror and see who you are.
...............................
|
